We dated off and on for 5 years. Then finally ended it permanently a year ago. To say it was awful is an understatement. Even if you think you’re both at an age where you’re mature enough I would still advise against it. It’s almost guaranteed to create problems in the workplace. Problems at home are brought to work and work problems are brought home. Innocent friendships with coworkers might be misinterpreted causing jealousy . Then if you break up you have to see that person every day with a constant reminder of the good and bad times. It’s not worth it.
Yes. I helped her with the homework for the masters program until her degree diverged from mine, and we went on several very good but platonic dates, then stopped, then dated a couple more times, then stopped. Frankly, I was stuck wanting more and she was not. I think things truly peetered out on her side when the issue of religion came up (I’m Presbyterian, she is Muslim), but I wanted to try to keep going. That did not happen, despite my efforts, and eventually we fell out of contact.
Found out recently she’s engaged, and probably got engaged around the time things stopped between us. I feel like she should have at least clearly broken it off with me, but I’m not that broken up about it, just having trouble finding someone to move on with.
Us being coworkers made it way easier to connect, chat, etc.. But it also meant that I had to be at least a bit careful to make sure things were never messy or could be taken badly; so I didn’t push when things slowed down. I don’t think it would have been wise if she worked in the same department as me, but her work is far enough out of my way that our thing doesn’t complicate our jobs. Overall, not the worst, and I’d probably try again (with another coworker) if there was a chance with another woman at work, in a different department.
Was single, got to hit. I liked her, she ditched me for a dude that was a complete liar. Got knocked up by the frycook from jack in the box (yes, he actually worked there but told her he owned several resteraunts). 5 months later she (working at the same company but a different store) is complaining to the girls up front and me too about how much of a loser bum this dude was. I was a bit of a dick because my attitude was “youll find sympathy from me between shit and syphillys in the dictionary”. So for context, 5 months earlier, we were supposed to meet up for a date, i was 10 mins early, and watched her leave with the fry cook. Had a few drinks by myself that night, enjoyed the time out and went home. Wrote her off right there. It was funny to see her bitching about frycook being a lying bum. Im not some high faluting attourney, but at the time i was at the top of my field (still am) and made good money. Whole situation was funny because even the front desk girls were throwing her shade for what she pulled.
As being another female but knowing she was homophobic. It made it difficult but I hurried those feelings and never told her. I’m no longer friends with her but she was chill
I worked at the food warehouse and she worked as a chef. I would deliver to her restaurant every morning. We started talking and started smoking weed before our shift and getting burritos. She had a boyfriend in California she had never met (weird twitter days) and I did not care. We have been together for almost 10 years.
Absolutely. We became good work friends and people would even say she was my work wife (I’m single). She is married and I do believe I had a shot, but I didn’t want to be a homewrecker. She and I still keep in touch via IG and she recently told me she started up a FWB thing with an old friend of hers. I guess her husband cheats on her (?) so she figured she’d just cheat on him. If she gave me the opportunity, I still don’t know if I would take it. But dammit she’s hot as fuck
Yes. In the moment I did nothing because it would have been inappropriate with me being her boss. 4 years after she left the company we reconnected randomly and I asked her out. She is now my wife and the mother of my children. Played the long game
I got rejected by all 3, and currently friends with all 3:..best friends…
I did get close to another one, we kissed and stuff. Fell out of contact, got back into contact for a bit, only made me the emotional support person, confronted her about it and got blocked.
Stayed away from coworkers in the same company. But I’ve gone out with lots of women who id say are coworker-ish, women who work with vendors, contracts, outside help etc.. I think you get the best of both worlds here, they understand your day to day, you can have good conversations about the type of work you do, if it goes bad it won’t be awkward because you don’t work with them often or at all anymore. Id usually wait until a project is over and the likely hold of ever seeing them again in a professional manner drops to about 5%
Man I got so close to making a big mistake. I’m married and I was on a work trip. She stopped by my room to pick something up for a trade show booth. She invited herself in, we were on the first floor and there was a little patio facing a busy courtyard. She went and sat down and I figured ok this is harmless until she reached over and grabbed my dick over my pants. I politely declined the blowjob but I’d be lying if I said wasn’t tempted. Also I owned the company
there is no happy ending if you act on it.either she wont feel the same,and h.r. will be calling you,or youll date,and the couples arguments will bleed into the workplace,and h.r. will be calling you. leave it alone bro.
Yeah. We had common interests and became close friends, too close of friends if ya know what I mean.
Very genuine woman. I’d like to keep her around forever but, I know nothing’s forever. If she finds happiness at the cost of losing contact with me, then I’ll be happy for her.
no and nothing, i have however purchased random flowers for someone at work, no one knew it was me, some other guy took credit for it (i never corrected it).. i found out after someone debunked him as they could prove his location when he claimed to have purchased them.
Sure, in past jobs. One I dated, one I hooked up with, two I became friendly with and wasn’t getting any sign of mutual interest so I didn’t pursue anything and just stayed friendly.
I actually had a crush on one most recently this year. My coworkers and friends encouraged me to start talking to her, and so I did. Mind you, we do work different departments but the same building. She told me recently she knew I liked her cause I would only talk to her 1 on 1. Anyway, we started talking and I eventually got her number. Some of my coworkers said that they think she likes me too, hence why I pursued trying to have a relationship with her in some form. Eventually, we were gonna settle on going on a walk and a date around my birthday, but she ended up making different plans and assumed me complaining about something meant I didn’t want to do it.
So I did what most guys in my friend group would do and just ignored her and moved on with my life and bettered myself. She ended up contacting me a month later. This was after she was in a car wreck, and then a couple days after she contacted me, her dog died. We start talking again, and she gets all flirty and stuff with me. I call her out cause she said before she ain’t interested in dating me and I just continued thinking we were friends. I invited her over like twice, once for a party, and the 2nd ended up being us alone cause my roommate was with his girlfriend. I cooked us dinner basically the 2nd time she was over. We’ve also been on a couple walks here and there, and she’s told me we’re only coworkers. I waited all this time to see if she’d change her mind with us being friends or something but naw.
Eventually, i started suspecting a coworker of hers, who’s older than I am and married, was getting more intimate with her cause he always seemed jealous of guys talking to her. I even ask my other coworkers about it, and most can confirm something weird is going on. Anyway, my same coworkers say she’s playing me and some of my friends think she’s a bit slow. 🤷♂️. I basically blocked her today, but im still feeling suspicious of that guy doing shit with her. I dont recommend having workplace crushes either.
Yes, I married her. But, after almost 20yrs together, we are headed for divorce.
Had a crush on a coworker recently. Kept it to myself. Then after a night of drinking far too much, I confessed my feelings to her through a text. She didn’t reciprocate and said she was focusing on her son and being a mom. Totally understandable. I accepted it graciously, told her I didn’t want it to be awkward, and wanted to remain friends. So, that’s where things stand now.
Usually I just bury myself in tasks and avoid them for a while, and the feelings subside.
Example: fellow nurse in my unit. I worked a year with her before I caught myself noticing, unexpectedly, that her hair smelled nice when I walked past her one day. That made me feel kind of weird and disgusted with myself, so I just ignored it and made sure I stayed upwind of her as much as possible.
One morning, I woke up after having dreamed of spooning with her. Nothing sexual; just cozy and comfortable and peaceful. Hey! Let’s suppress our feelings! It’ll work this time, even though it’s literally never worked at any point in my life!
Yeah, no. Bahaha.
What I did: I dialed back my interactions, took a vacation, felt a lot of feelings, and did a lot of introspection as to why I’m tempted to cross a bunch of boundaries and risk my career for the sake of a crush.
It’s fine now. I’m currently wrestling with a reignited crush with another coworker, but she’s a doctor and only consults at our hospital from time to time. I’m less uncomfortable with that.
Yes. Try to make awkward conversation. Then i watched my ripped coworker make her laugh and have flowing conversation with. It was the hello HR meme in real life.
I did a couple of times. I never crossed that line because I didn’t want problems at work or in my relationships. Even if I wasn’t in relationships idk if I could. It may end up with me fired for harassment or something maybe she is banging the boss and he sees me trying and I get messed with or fired. Don’t do it.
The closest I get is having once briefly had one on a former co-worker I was attending church with at the time. I never made a move because I knew she wasn’t interested. For the most part, I tend to really compartmentalize my work life from the rest of me so this doesn’t happen. She was an exception.
Plenty of times. Just complimented them like normal and did nothing about it. Loved my money, job, and freedom. I wasn’t dare jeopardizing that for a pretty lady 😂
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Yes.
I ended my marriage.
I fired her
Yes. Nothing.
Snogged her a few times; workplace drama ensued; workplace now a lot less fun
Fucked her til my back went out.
Yes. Nothing, because that would’ve been messy and unprofessional.
Crush? No.
Did I get them both pregnant?
Yes.
Put my penis in her, if you know what I mean 😏
I think most would be lying if they said no. However don’t do anything about it.
We dated off and on for 5 years. Then finally ended it permanently a year ago. To say it was awful is an understatement. Even if you think you’re both at an age where you’re mature enough I would still advise against it. It’s almost guaranteed to create problems in the workplace. Problems at home are brought to work and work problems are brought home. Innocent friendships with coworkers might be misinterpreted causing jealousy . Then if you break up you have to see that person every day with a constant reminder of the good and bad times. It’s not worth it.
Yes. I helped her with the homework for the masters program until her degree diverged from mine, and we went on several very good but platonic dates, then stopped, then dated a couple more times, then stopped. Frankly, I was stuck wanting more and she was not. I think things truly peetered out on her side when the issue of religion came up (I’m Presbyterian, she is Muslim), but I wanted to try to keep going. That did not happen, despite my efforts, and eventually we fell out of contact.
Found out recently she’s engaged, and probably got engaged around the time things stopped between us. I feel like she should have at least clearly broken it off with me, but I’m not that broken up about it, just having trouble finding someone to move on with.
Us being coworkers made it way easier to connect, chat, etc.. But it also meant that I had to be at least a bit careful to make sure things were never messy or could be taken badly; so I didn’t push when things slowed down. I don’t think it would have been wise if she worked in the same department as me, but her work is far enough out of my way that our thing doesn’t complicate our jobs. Overall, not the worst, and I’d probably try again (with another coworker) if there was a chance with another woman at work, in a different department.
Once.
Nothing. Wasn’t about to jeopardize my income over feelings, cos feelings don’t pay the bills.
Yes, nothing.
It’s how I (49) met my girlfriend (26). Although the crush was mutual. We no longer work together but we’ve been together a little over two years now.
I’ve been attracted to coworkers in the past. I did nothing about it, I’m married.
Was single, got to hit. I liked her, she ditched me for a dude that was a complete liar. Got knocked up by the frycook from jack in the box (yes, he actually worked there but told her he owned several resteraunts). 5 months later she (working at the same company but a different store) is complaining to the girls up front and me too about how much of a loser bum this dude was. I was a bit of a dick because my attitude was “youll find sympathy from me between shit and syphillys in the dictionary”. So for context, 5 months earlier, we were supposed to meet up for a date, i was 10 mins early, and watched her leave with the fry cook. Had a few drinks by myself that night, enjoyed the time out and went home. Wrote her off right there. It was funny to see her bitching about frycook being a lying bum. Im not some high faluting attourney, but at the time i was at the top of my field (still am) and made good money. Whole situation was funny because even the front desk girls were throwing her shade for what she pulled.
As being another female but knowing she was homophobic. It made it difficult but I hurried those feelings and never told her. I’m no longer friends with her but she was chill
Almost always at every job.
I don’t do anything every time.
I don’t want to ever mix where I make money and where I fuck.
I have seen the horrors of mixing the two in my early 20s.
I was the crush. We’re married now.
Yes. Carried on a purely sexual relationship until the job was over…and some after the job was over. Repeat as desired.
Yes we are now married with a kid. 100% would do again.
I worked at the food warehouse and she worked as a chef. I would deliver to her restaurant every morning. We started talking and started smoking weed before our shift and getting burritos. She had a boyfriend in California she had never met (weird twitter days) and I did not care. We have been together for almost 10 years.
Yes and nothing. Injust enjoyed her company
Yes, a few of them.
I asked them out, or became friends and then was ultimately rejected.
I’ve never dated or even kissed a coworker, not for a lack of trying.
Yes. I left that job
Asked out and got rejected.
I slept with her. Repeatedly. For about 2 years.
It was fucking great.
I tried to bang them. If they said no, I would go back to normal, but drop little hints when she complains about other dudes.
Pretty much every time I ever worked somewhere I ended up with a crush on at least one female coworker.
Absolutely. We became good work friends and people would even say she was my work wife (I’m single). She is married and I do believe I had a shot, but I didn’t want to be a homewrecker. She and I still keep in touch via IG and she recently told me she started up a FWB thing with an old friend of hers. I guess her husband cheats on her (?) so she figured she’d just cheat on him. If she gave me the opportunity, I still don’t know if I would take it. But dammit she’s hot as fuck
We smashed
Yes. In the moment I did nothing because it would have been inappropriate with me being her boss. 4 years after she left the company we reconnected randomly and I asked her out. She is now my wife and the mother of my children. Played the long game
Yes, but do nothing out of respect for them.
Yes. Absolutely nothing. I was married
Yes and I dated her. Long story short don’t shit where you eat. Dating colleagues is never a good idea.
I shot my shot with 3 of them.
I got rejected by all 3, and currently friends with all 3:..best friends…
I did get close to another one, we kissed and stuff. Fell out of contact, got back into contact for a bit, only made me the emotional support person, confronted her about it and got blocked.
Stayed away from coworkers in the same company. But I’ve gone out with lots of women who id say are coworker-ish, women who work with vendors, contracts, outside help etc.. I think you get the best of both worlds here, they understand your day to day, you can have good conversations about the type of work you do, if it goes bad it won’t be awkward because you don’t work with them often or at all anymore. Id usually wait until a project is over and the likely hold of ever seeing them again in a professional manner drops to about 5%
Yes. But I remained respectful and a friend.
Married her. Its common among medical folk. We don’t follow the dont shit where you eat advice
Yeah. Flirted a bit and almost had sex but I stopped it. Thankfully.
Yes. Nothing, no sex is worth risking my income.
Man I got so close to making a big mistake. I’m married and I was on a work trip. She stopped by my room to pick something up for a trade show booth. She invited herself in, we were on the first floor and there was a little patio facing a busy courtyard. She went and sat down and I figured ok this is harmless until she reached over and grabbed my dick over my pants. I politely declined the blowjob but I’d be lying if I said wasn’t tempted. Also I owned the company
Yes. I asked her out for a drink. She said yes. A few years later, after we’d been together a while, I asked her to marry me. She said yes then, too.
We’re married with a child and another on the way!
I asked her out.
there is no happy ending if you act on it.either she wont feel the same,and h.r. will be calling you,or youll date,and the couples arguments will bleed into the workplace,and h.r. will be calling you. leave it alone bro.
Sure, several times. They’ve been in relationships, so I haven’t done anything at all. Crushes fade. They’re not important.
Yeah. We had common interests and became close friends, too close of friends if ya know what I mean.
Very genuine woman. I’d like to keep her around forever but, I know nothing’s forever. If she finds happiness at the cost of losing contact with me, then I’ll be happy for her.
Definitely but I do nothing. I clock in, do work, and go home. I keep it professional. If my coworker initiated anything I’d be happy though
no and nothing, i have however purchased random flowers for someone at work, no one knew it was me, some other guy took credit for it (i never corrected it).. i found out after someone debunked him as they could prove his location when he claimed to have purchased them.
I did. I do. I don’t act on it.
Sure, in past jobs. One I dated, one I hooked up with, two I became friendly with and wasn’t getting any sign of mutual interest so I didn’t pursue anything and just stayed friendly.
I actually had a crush on one most recently this year. My coworkers and friends encouraged me to start talking to her, and so I did. Mind you, we do work different departments but the same building. She told me recently she knew I liked her cause I would only talk to her 1 on 1. Anyway, we started talking and I eventually got her number. Some of my coworkers said that they think she likes me too, hence why I pursued trying to have a relationship with her in some form. Eventually, we were gonna settle on going on a walk and a date around my birthday, but she ended up making different plans and assumed me complaining about something meant I didn’t want to do it.
So I did what most guys in my friend group would do and just ignored her and moved on with my life and bettered myself. She ended up contacting me a month later. This was after she was in a car wreck, and then a couple days after she contacted me, her dog died. We start talking again, and she gets all flirty and stuff with me. I call her out cause she said before she ain’t interested in dating me and I just continued thinking we were friends. I invited her over like twice, once for a party, and the 2nd ended up being us alone cause my roommate was with his girlfriend. I cooked us dinner basically the 2nd time she was over. We’ve also been on a couple walks here and there, and she’s told me we’re only coworkers. I waited all this time to see if she’d change her mind with us being friends or something but naw.
Eventually, i started suspecting a coworker of hers, who’s older than I am and married, was getting more intimate with her cause he always seemed jealous of guys talking to her. I even ask my other coworkers about it, and most can confirm something weird is going on. Anyway, my same coworkers say she’s playing me and some of my friends think she’s a bit slow. 🤷♂️. I basically blocked her today, but im still feeling suspicious of that guy doing shit with her. I dont recommend having workplace crushes either.
Sure before I was married but never acted on it. Too much career and reputational risk fooling around with people at your own workplace.
Yes. I kept it to myself.
Yep. We hooked up for two years.
Learn from my mistakes. Don’t shit where you eat.
Yes, I married her. But, after almost 20yrs together, we are headed for divorce.
Had a crush on a coworker recently. Kept it to myself. Then after a night of drinking far too much, I confessed my feelings to her through a text. She didn’t reciprocate and said she was focusing on her son and being a mom. Totally understandable. I accepted it graciously, told her I didn’t want it to be awkward, and wanted to remain friends. So, that’s where things stand now.
I had sex with her.
Yes. She is probably 20 years younger than I am. We also work together so I will do nothing.
Loads of times. Slept with two of them. Married one of them. Admired the rest from afar
Don’t shit where you eat.
Yea. Waited till we weren’t coworkers and then we dated.
Yes. I had sexy time with her.
yeah, a girl at my work. Nice body and I like her, we get along but I don’t want to ruin that with my current gf.
I might go home and fantasize about her, but dating at work is a very bad idea.
Avoided her, mostly.
Yep! We only worked together for four months. Told her two years later how I felt about her. Found out that she had a guy and was getting married.
Yes and Nothing as i was Dating someone!
Yes. I asked her out. She said no. Went on to become friends.
Yup, married for 15 years this year.
Got her pregnant.
Crush on a male co-worker.
I just did my job and tried not to think too much about it. It didn’t really change how I acted in any way… and he probably had zero clue.
Yes.
I got over myself. I’m happily married.
Took her out to see Coldplay. jk
Yes. Took her to a Coldplay concert recently but I don’t want to talk about it
Yes; I married her. Nine year wedding anniversary in five days; together thirteen total.
Usually I just bury myself in tasks and avoid them for a while, and the feelings subside.
Example: fellow nurse in my unit. I worked a year with her before I caught myself noticing, unexpectedly, that her hair smelled nice when I walked past her one day. That made me feel kind of weird and disgusted with myself, so I just ignored it and made sure I stayed upwind of her as much as possible.
One morning, I woke up after having dreamed of spooning with her. Nothing sexual; just cozy and comfortable and peaceful. Hey! Let’s suppress our feelings! It’ll work this time, even though it’s literally never worked at any point in my life!
Yeah, no. Bahaha.
What I did: I dialed back my interactions, took a vacation, felt a lot of feelings, and did a lot of introspection as to why I’m tempted to cross a bunch of boundaries and risk my career for the sake of a crush.
It’s fine now. I’m currently wrestling with a reignited crush with another coworker, but she’s a doctor and only consults at our hospital from time to time. I’m less uncomfortable with that.
Yes. Married her. Still together.
Yes. Try to make awkward conversation. Then i watched my ripped coworker make her laugh and have flowing conversation with. It was the hello HR meme in real life.
I did a couple of times. I never crossed that line because I didn’t want problems at work or in my relationships. Even if I wasn’t in relationships idk if I could. It may end up with me fired for harassment or something maybe she is banging the boss and he sees me trying and I get messed with or fired. Don’t do it.
Yes
And nothing (she didn’t like me at all lol)
The closest I get is having once briefly had one on a former co-worker I was attending church with at the time. I never made a move because I knew she wasn’t interested. For the most part, I tend to really compartmentalize my work life from the rest of me so this doesn’t happen. She was an exception.
Plenty of times. Just complimented them like normal and did nothing about it. Loved my money, job, and freedom. I wasn’t dare jeopardizing that for a pretty lady 😂
Fucked her. Big mistake by the way