`I’ve recently made a definitive decision to prioritize my own well-being and future, which involved cutting ties with someone from a very complicated and prolonged past connection. This wasn’t a simple relationship; it was a dynamic built on a great deal of chemistry and mutual attraction, evolving over time and including an intense, multifaceted connection that involved significant physical intimacy. It’s important to note that this connection never became formal; initially, I was in another relationship, but by the time physical intimacy occurred, I was already single. This profound bond had a deep personal impact on me and significantly complicated the detachment process.
Throughout this, our contact was often ambiguous and notably complicated by external factors, like her current relationship. This led to instances of her blocking and unblocking me on social media, interspersed with direct attempts to reconnect and other indirect signals that always kept things unclear.
Despite taking a firm, final step by completely ending all communication on my end for my own peace and stability, my mind still frequently replays scenarios and intrusive thoughts from all those intense interactions. I’m looking for practical, actionable advice from men who have successfully navigated similar, complex situations. What specific mental exercises, mindset shifts, or productive redirections helped you effectively cleanse your mind and fully reclaim your mental energy for your own growth and goals, especially when the history was prolonged, full of mixed signals, and deeply impactful on a personal level?`
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Idk man, I just focus on myself and as long as it’s out of sight out of mind I don’t really care to dwell on it. Do things that help you get in touch with yourself and move your energy to more productive outlets.
The answer you’re looking for doesn’t exist. Block them and move on, only time will help you forget. Or you could find someone else to fill the void but that probably won’t do you any good.
It’s an ugly answer, but I did enough emotional damage on my way out that there’s an absolute zero chance that it can come back. So I can’t wish for it, because I know it won’t happen. Thank goodness.
Get a new girlfriend.
Some things just aren’t meant to be. Acceptance of the situation and I’ve reassured myself I’ve done the best I could. Dwelling on the past with what could’ve been is a mental trap. I gotta take care of myself and pursue my goals because nobody else will. I think that’s what keeps me from going crazy when I’ve faced a breakup.