For those that have accepted being alone, how do you fill your days besides working?
For those that have accepted being alone, how do you fill your days besides working?
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For those that have accepted being alone, how do you fill your days besides working?
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morning walks, coffee rituals, journaling, skincare, reading, gaming . The list goes on
I stay busy with active hobbies like sports, building things, cooking, and baking, and I read a lot. I try to avoid passive stuff like sitting in front of the TV… I feel like that would slowly kill me.
YouTube, comics, video games…all sorts of escapist media that gets me out of my head and somewhere else. More than a little doomscrolling. Disassociation. Occasionally chats on Discord. It’s basically just killing time until the next time I work.
Morning walks, youtube, exploring places to eat and new food, sometimes go for climbing or cycling, explore bookstores.
Mas. Tur. Bat. Ion.
Doing things I enjoy and pursuing interests
Video games, photography, movies, music, walking, booking. Probably going to start drawing or painting again.
video games, cooking, hiking, watching sports (baseball and football, especially college football), watching movies/tv, lifting every few days, and traveling when i can
I plan on moving away to the country and spend a lot of time prepping for that.
Other than that, music creation, art, crafting, research, and entertainment with family (not wife or kids, but family)
Honestly, not much changes, just not spending it with someone else.
In the current state of the world, I believe it’s the most worthwhile and peaceful choice many can make. Loneliness is temporary, and if you feel it, do something in your community that helps someone who genuinely wants your help.
As a guy who has taken a quite a while to figure out his love life (I’m 34 and had quite the track record with failed relationships) as well as a military guy who’s closest friends are, ironically, not close to me at all, I’ve had a lot of time to work on what you’re asking about so here’s MY advice:
– Love yourself, first and foremost do this. Sounds corny but I was once told that in the end you need to treat yourself like you would your best friend. If you’re battling loneliness or feeling bad at all, take the advice that you’d offer someone if they came to you asking for it. There’s times where I’d be doing nothing and sulking because I was doing nothing and there’d be this part of me that would get mad at myself for that and would motivate me to do the following points.
– Hobbies, this has been a hard one for me. There’s a lot of things to try out there and only a few might actually stick. But never stop being adventurous about, the effort you put into searching for hobbies whether it be with groups of random people or hobbies you do alone will at least have you feeling rewarded for just getting out there. I once found myself in a small bicycle club with guys who just simply biked on bike paths once a week and they were actually laid back guys, didn’t know any of them but they were really cool in the end and gave me sage advice for that part of my life. I’m an introvert at heart so most hobbies I enjoy are by myself (hiking, runnning, gaming). I’m not sure if you’re an introvert as well, but just having something to occupy that time off work does wonders for my mental health.
– Meditation, this one is easy but in my opinion also important. No I’m not saying start doing some yoga (although I do enjoy yoga lol) but my favorite parts of the day are the small moments alone where I just try to take in the scenery outside my apartment before or after my shift for the day. Like my personal thing is waking up at the crack of dawn (I work nights) and brewing me some coffee and chilling on my porch for about 10-15 minutes, however long it takes to drink my coffee. By no means am I surrounded by nature, hell I live in a suburban area, but just being outside where the sun is shining and I’m not interacting with technology gives me a moment to ground myself and thats the main point I’m getting at here, just find that moment to GROUND yourself and give yourself a moment of clarity or to mentally breathe before the day starts or before you go to bed.
– Self help, I’m not the biggest reader but being alone a lot has motivated me to learn about myself. I grew up with a lot of emotional problems and as I grew older I found reading self help books or reading articles pertaining to whatever issues I’ve been harboring and it has proven to a good extent that understanding who I am makes living my life a lot easier. It’s brought me peace with some things as well as made me motivated to try out new stuff (tying back to hobbies and meditation). I’m IT and problem solving is my entire job, so why just stop at work and try to also solve the underlying personal issues I have?
– Treating yourself, this one is crazy to me, once again being an introvert. But the wildest things I have done for myself….BY myself is travelling. I only started this recently but I started spending my off days going out and driving places. At first it was just trips to random towns nearby to go to a coffee shop or see a landmark but it’s been evolving into me going on roadtrips to other states for shows of artists I’ve always wanted to hear live. I don’t ALWAYS go on these alone, I sometimes have a friend tag along but I’ve found that being alone at a show isn’t anything to be weird about. Hell I feel pretty badass at times when I go grab a drink or two before a show at a bar talking it up with the bartender and they find that I drove 8-10 hours just to spend two nights out to their city and I’m our here just flying solo like some drifter. But anyhoo, yeah I found that doing these trips for myself is very rewarding and I’m now very comfortable with being alone in a place I’m not familiar with. Hell, I’m going to Japan here next year and I cannot wait, I’ve always wanted to go and never had a ‘reason’ or someone out there to visit so here I am saying “Screw it, I’ll do it myself”. Why? Because I deserve it.
That’s basically my main points. I hope something there meant something to you and I hope you get a lot more responses here. Take care of yourself man! Make sure that when you are alone, that you’re in good company.
I don’t do anything. It’s why I have such trouble with dating profiles, and hence being alone
Video games, the gym, miniature hobbying, YouTube, writing (mostly just thinking about it), movies/shows with my parents, doomscrolling, and a massage once every two weeks (honestly it’s just nice to be touched).
Taking care of my kids and reminiscing about my former hobbies.
Friends, family, working on house projects, traveling, video games, and yes… sometimes spending an entire Sunday rotting in bed with a book.
Sports videogames hanging with my cat watching TV.
suicidal tendenciesrn im playing Wuchang Fallen FeathersJust work and nothing else. Besides not having a partner, I also don’t have any friends.
This post is really just an attempt at enabling bad mindsets.
I’m in a long distant relationship with someone currently located on the other side of the world, and have been in one for several years. So, I am “alone” for the vast majority of my time.
I socialize. I go out. I meet people. I go to baseball games, museums, concerts, local events, I go out running and to the gym, I ride motorcycles, i go to the pool in my development, I go shooting, I do solo vacations. I go to bars and restaurants alone and meet people.
While I am “alone.” I am rarely by myself.
But, I do love hunkering down with some good Chinese food on a Friday night binge watching a show and research work/career items.
I fill the quiet with small routines like walks, books, hobbies, cooking something new . It’s not always exciting but there’s a kind of peace in not needing anyone else to feel okay
While I’m not single, I have discovered that I crave solitude. Usually spend it with my dog, watching YouTube, browsing Reddit, reading, and some video gaming.
Cooking, shows, solo dates, reading
Qood question, i noticed the starts seem to really enjoy there work, so a few (like Sliff Richard) said he enjoyed known he could just fly off to another country for women as he really enjoyed that.
So you need hobbies you really enjoy, meaning your not doing them to find others, you do them as you really like it, for the stars thats acting or singing.
Gym, my cats, youtube, social media, family
Besides writing guides on reddit on how to give up on love and make peace with it?
I replaced all the goals I had about building families and finding love. Now it’s about finishing my book, getting short stories published in anthologies, and getting that job I always wanted. Next to sports and reaching physical milestones, and cooking, and reading, and whatever strikes my fancy.
That occupies most of the day, on bad days I have meditation tricks to handle unwanted thoughts.
It took a while to change perspective, going from wanting to find a soulmate to accepting life is lived alone for some. But now that it’s done, I’m pretty happy all around.
I just hit three years since being single (from a five and a half year relationship where I bought a ring) and I really struggled with alcohol after the breakup. Now I struggle with edibles but I think that’s more to relax. When I get home I like trying to cook fancy dishes and then watch my show for an hour. Play some games with friends online and read to finish off the evening. Then I cry myself to sleep and do it all again
Maintenance takes up a big chunk of my time. Cooking, cleaning, exercising.
But I’ve got hobbies too. Dance classes are my biggest time expenditure outside the necessary tasks.
Plotting my takeover of the world. Not going well so far.
Videogames, shooting, tinkering on guns, photography, CAD occasionally. Meet up with friends across the state and get drunk in the middle of the forest and shoot guns until 5am for 2-3 days straight a couple times a year.
I watch a lot of sports
Self reflection is a good one. Talk to yourself and figure yourself out.
Why do you feel the way you do? Why do you act certain ways? Are those symptoms of something? What’s your love language? Attachment style?
What hobbies interests you? Start being creative and productive. Our brains like that.
you’re looking at it.