I’m 19(F) from north india and after being 2 3 days late i took 2 pregnancy tests today and they both came positive. I instantly freaked out because my family is really strict and no one can know of the fact that im sexually active. My boyfriend took an online consultation with a doctor on practo as i was too scared and panicky to talk to anyone about this. I messaged a few abortion clinics and all the surgical procedures cost 40k + which is something i can’t afford to use on this. The doctor told him that I should get an ultrasound done around 7th august, as by that time it should have settled in my uterus. She said if i take the MTP kit while it’s in my fallopian tube it could be life threatening. I’m really scared because i don’t want to wait one whole week knowing i’m pregnant. I live at home and my mom asked me if im on my period and i just said yes because i can’t let her know they’re late or anything about this. I honestly feel like ive let myself down and it sucks to see him so worried about me. I’m okay with going through any amounts of pain just so i can get out of this healthy. I wish there was someone i could talk to but im just so ashamed and i feel so irresponsible. im only 19 and i feel so stupid. I’ve never been so disappointed and i’m so concerned about my body and health and life now. i don’t know how I’ll move past this. To make matters worse the father of the child isn’t exactly my boyfriend now i just referred to him as that to make things sound simpler but honestly im really thankful that he’s showing up for me and trying to help me out. I’m a college going student and i have to hide this secret from everyone and im just so so scared of so many things. Of any complications, of people finding out, of the pain, the emotional stress. I’ve already gone through a lot in life and this just feels like the end of it all.
Update: We’re going for an ultrasound on tuesday and if everything is okay we’ll be provided w the MPT kit there and then. If any of u have any tips or suggestions for medical abortions and what to look out for then please let me know. I live at home but travel to university everyday and I absolutely need to hide this from my family. My plan was to be busy and distracted w travelling and college etc so that i don’t think much about the pain because that’s what do with my regular period cramps. If u could give any advice i would really appreciate it
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I’m glad it is going to work out for you. Please see if you can get a long acting form of birth control to protect yourself
They gave me the pill at the clinic and then I also had to go to a pharmacy to pick up something else. It’s been so long. I can’t remember what it was. The drive from the clinic to the pharmacy was when I really started to feel terrible. By the time I was waiting in line at the pharmacy, I could hardly stand from the nausea when I got to my friends house, I laid down for hours feeling terrible.
I was starving but the thought of food made me dry heave. I was lying on my side, on the couch most of the day. I would get up to go to the bathroom and there was quite a bit of blood each time. It was not a fun experience but important and I have zero regrets.
I wouldn’t make plans to do anything that day. Prepare to feel fairly bedridden. Have an excuse ready if you’ll have to be at home with your family. Otherwise, I would find another place to go for the day. I lied to my family and said I was going to the zoo and went to a friend’s house instead🤷🏼♀️ Also, have someone to drive you. There is no way I would’ve been able to drive with the level of cramps and sickness I was feeling.
This was in 2009 in the US. Feel free to DM if you have questions.
I have no experience to offer, but I’d just like to say that I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you, and I hope it all works out! I’ve heard that bleeding after medical abortion is a lot worse than from a regular period, so be careful about that, but I suppose you’d already know about it
Please consider an iud or the bc shot, etc to prevent this in the future.
Take care of yourself and try not to stress yourself too much. Please update us afterwards so we know you are ok. Sending you love and strength 🩷
I don’t live in India so I don’t know how these things work there.
Where I live, if you catch it early enough you should be able to get pills that will terminate the pregnancy. Make sure you go to a reputable pharmacy/ doctor because your health is wayyyyy more important than money. You should be about 4 weeks pregnant. At 4 weeks, here they will give you the pill immediately. Maybe consult with a few more clinics / doctors. Than you won’t have to have the medical abortion.
Take a deep breath. Then another. It will be OK 💜
I am glad that you’ll be able to access mife/miso abortion pill and that it’s early enough. In states of the US where it is still legal, the pill can be used up to 12 weeks – sounds like you’re in good shape, they just want to confirm not ectopic as a precaution.
Think of it as a bad period day? If you can arrange to be home and just say that you’re resting with bad period cramps? It’s true enough. Or stay with a trusted friend, watch some movies, drink tea, ride the couch for a day or two.
Many women feel that they have to perform contrition about their carelessness. But some also feel bewildered that they feel – well, not much emotionally, other than a desire to be unpregnant and get things sorted.
After this, I hope you’ll proactively access birth control. There should be no shame or stigma.
Good luck sweetie, you got this.
First pill stopped the pregnancy. Second pill, next morning, started the contraction that just felt like strong period cramps. 3 hours later, I passed the zygote/embryo. Rest of the day, I felt weak and tired. Within two days, it was like nothing happened.
Everyone is different. So take my easy-peasy and the horror stories with a grain of salt.
And! Please get on reliable birth control. Or get married. Good luck.
You need to stop having sex until you can get on a reliable form of birth control and have regular access to condoms. Please learn from this scare. But I’m glad things appear to be working out. I wish you luck❤️🍀
Oh my gosh please don’t beat yourself up about this. If you are my daughter, I would give you a massive hug right now.
It’s okay .. sending you all Good vibes and wishing you the best.
see a dr
If you can be away from home for a day/overnight when you take the medication, do it. You may experience vomiting, diarrhea, intense cramping and bleeding, like a very terrible case of food poisoning. If you can, stay with a friend or someone who can make sure you get some water and help you if any complications might happen. heating pad soup, gatorade, etc might help you feel better.