I’ve been dating this guy about 7 months 34m 31f, and both of us said in the bringing that we were looking for a relationship but there’s been no title thus far. We are exclusive and talk just about every day, see each other at least once a week if schedules permit and have met some friends. But there’s also not much future talk. Should I ask where we stand or walk away ? In my experience the man has always initiated this talk. Part of me feels that if he wanted to ask me he would have by now.
Tl;dr should I ask what we are or just walk away after 7 months and no title
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Why would you just walk away from the relationship when you could have a conversation like a normal adult?
Talk to him, but if it leads to more waiting, or him being hesitant, move on
Start the talk yourself. Maybe in his experience the woman always initiated it
Bring it up… I did that with my current boyfriend, we’d been hooking up and hanging out constantly for a month, so one night while walking back to his, I just asked him, “hey, what are doing?”
He told me he wanted to be with me, and boom, boyfriend/girlfriend.
7 months is a long time to go without clarity, but at this point, if he isn’t bringing it up, you have to. Otherwise you’ll be stuck in a weird sort of limbo forever.
It’s really strange that neither of you have brought it up in 7 months. I don’t know why you wouldn’t try to talk before making a decision?
After 7 months, it’s totally fair to ask where you stand. Titles and clarity matter, especially if you both said you wanted a relationship. If he hasn’t brought it up, you deserve to know what he’s thinking. It’s better to ask than stay stuck wondering, if he’s serious, he’ll appreciate your honesty. If not, then you can decide what’s best for you