I (21M) have been with my girlfriend (21F) for almost two years. I don’t use social media and didn’t realize today was National Girlfriends Day. I’ve been overwhelmed with work and it slipped my mind.
She was distant all day sending short replies and responding with a couple word replies to me on the phone. At 10 PM sent me a screenshot of the holiday on google, which is how I found out.
from there I called her immediately after I got the text and wished her a happy national girlfriends day and that I love her and she sighed and said “Thats it?” and then she said she was going to bed. From there we didn’t talk further I just told her to sleep well. so I haven’t apologized yet.
For context, I plan most of our dates (we have one tomorrow I planned and one Sunday that I also planned), and I have never missed birthdays/anniversary/Valentine’s.
I feel this was not that big of a deal, but I am open to feedback. AITA?
Edit: She did not get me anything for National Boyfriends Day or Valentines day
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I (21M) have been with my girlfriend (21F) for almost two years. I don’t use social media and didn’t realize today was National Girlfriends Day. I’ve been overwhelmed with work and it slipped my mind.
She was distant all day sending short replies and responding with a couple word replies to me on the phone. At 10 PM sent me a screenshot of the holiday on google, which is how I found out.
from there I called her immediately after I got the text and wished her a happy national girlfriends day and that I love her and she sighed and said “Thats it?” and then she said she was going to bed. From there we didn’t talk further I just told her to sleep well. so I haven’t apologized yet.
For context, I plan most of our dates (we have one tomorrow I planned and one Sunday that I also planned), and I have never missed birthdays/anniversary/Valentine’s.
I feel this was not that big of a deal, but I am open to feedback. AITA?
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NTA, similar incident happened to me last year and it’s not your fault for not having this on your calendar. I guess if you care about your relationship you could have a talk and set expectations straight. There’s so many ‘days’ to keep track of and you can only do so much.
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NTA – this is some made up crap.
Bro. RUN.
NTA I thought that was Valentine’s Day? She’s off by a few months.
She isn’t mature enough to be dating yet.
NTA at all. This is one of those random “every day is a holiday” holidays. You can’t be expected to keep track of all of that. If it was that incredibly important to get to celebrate it, she should have mentioned it in as coming up BEFORE the day of.
What country are you in? I’m in the US and have never heard of such a thing.
I have never heard of National Girlfriends Day.
NTA – I hate your girlfriend.
What did she do for you on national boyfriends day? Im guessing nothing as it made up bullshit.. do a runner mate, this will be tough gig for life if you don’t.
NTA. What a stupid “holiday.”
NTA. Oh, that is nonsense! National GF Day? From her reaction to this stupidity, my recommendation is that you examine your relationship. This is probably not the first time she has acted like this. You might want to reconsider just how much of this you want in your future.
NTA
Silly made-up holidays designed to get you to buy cheap gifts are just that….silly made-up holidays.
Tomorrow buy her some Mustard for Mustard Day and get her a Coloring Book since it’ll be Coloring Book Day…..I mean if she wants to celebrate silly holidays, she should want to celebrate one every day.
Keep today in mind on October 3. That’s National Boyfriend Day. Let’s see how she treats that day for you.
Ummm, no. NO NO NO NO NO NO!
INFO: Is there are National boyfriends day? And if so, what has she done on this special day for you?
All of these days are dumb, there’s days for everything if you look for it and a lot of it is just marketing ploys. Your girlfriend needs to grow up. Your anniversary, Valentine’s Day, her birthday, Christmas, if she celebrates it… Those are the days where you actually might make an effort. You don’t need to be making an effort with some monumental day every month of the year. There’s enough going on as it is.
NTA. It is a stupid fake “holiday”.
OP Google National Girlfriends Day and show it to your girlfriend. Seriously, do it. Definitely NTA.
NTA. “National Girlfriends Day celebrates the special bond of friendship between girls, whether sisters or mothers, classmates or co-workers.”
She should be upset with herself for not celebrating her girlfriends.
lol wut? Since when are there two Valentines Days? NTA
Has she ever acknowledged national boyfriends day?
NTA – she’s acting like a 21 year old
“And tomorrow is National Ex Girlfriend day, can I take you to get some coffee somewhere?”
NTA – If this is what she gets mad at you over, you should save yourself some time and call it quits.
This is right up there with the promposals 😣
NAH it is kind of stupid but she was probably sad seeing all the posts on her social media of people posting their girlfriends for it and not getting one herself. She should’ve just told you though it’s not like national girlfriend day is a big holiday
nta. This isn’t a thing.
As a (22F) fiance, NTA. It’s not even a CALENDAR holiday or anniversary day. You can’t read her mind and clearly had a busy day with work. She’s being dramatic.
I don’t think your the asshole, but I know on National Girlfriend Day a TON of people post about their girlfriends and it’s often how people find out about new couples, whether couples are still together etc. I think she should have voiced she likes things like that and it would be nice if you did something, but she went about it the wrong way and is taking it personally. But I also how seeing everyone’s partner do something nice/post about their girlfriend, while your partner didn’t could feel frustrating. Just talk about it! Say you didn’t know and aren’t social media, but you care. And she should also learn to appreciate what you already do and not get mad at something very small.
NTA this is not a thing
Your girlfriend is 21, she’s gonna act like a 21 year old woman. You’re not the asshole, but she thinks you are, so you can either apologize or let her be mad at you for a while.
What in the holy hell of made up commercial holidays is “National Girlfriends Day”???
NTA, and find a new one in honor of NGFD.
lol isn’t that everyday?
What even is this? When did this become a thing?
Errr…what did she do for you on bf day? If there’s a gf day there’s a bf day too, right?
Listen, you guys need to get on the same page when it comes to celebrations, which ones matter, which ones don’t, which are a laugh if you remember, what’s the expectation for gifts and celebrating the day, which days are flexible and which are fixed. You can also discuss how to celebrate the bigger holidays, like no travel or travel and where. Use this situation to pull out the calendar and get some base plan in place. Talking about this stuff now can minimize hurt feelings later.
NTA it doesn’t sound like you had any advanced warning of this “holiday” so it’s kinda hard to meet any kind of expectation.
NTA
JFC dude, she sounds like a lot of work
This is literally not a thing. Is your girlfriend a child? NTA.
NTA. Thanks to the age of the internet and TikTok, this has been happening a lot. And not just about this but a lot of things. The big problem is that people are posting things about how their partner does XYZ and it’s making other people who are not in that situation feel inferior. That’s why Clickbait works. It makes you feel like you don’t have something that you think you suddenly should have. Has she always celebrated this holiday? With every person she’s ever been with for every year of her life? Likely not. It’s likely that she saw a bunch of TikToks or something of girls that were getting all sorts of presents and attention and she decided she wanted that, but did not effectively communicate it. If this was going to be an expectation that she set on you, she needed to have told you that ahead of time and requested you participate. It’s likely that this is just stemming from her feeling inferior in some way. I think the best way to start a conversation with her would be to explain that every day for you is girlfriend day and that you were unaware of the holiday, and ask why it is so important to her to be celebrated on this particular day where a ton of other girls are also being celebrated. Not because she’s not worthy of being like the other girls, but because you see her as better than all of the other girls. She doesn’t compare to them. Why should she share a day with them? You can plan an extravagant date and praise her anytime. It’ll stand out more for being on a different day. Regardless, you may eventually need to twist the conversation into asking why she feels that this relationship must be exactly like everyone else’s. I mean it’s not, but she’s clearly comparing your relationship to someone else’s. Every relationship is different. Just because someone can afford to take their girlfriend to Paris doesn’t mean you can afford that. This might also be a conversation about expectations and what holidays you as a couple choose to celebrate.
Side note: I was also unaware of this holiday until now, when I saw a bunch of it all over Reddit. I would never place expectations on my boyfriend to do something particularly special for a “holiday” like this. Especially without discussing it with him first.
Wtf is national gf day?
Tomorrow is national ex girlfriends day
Unlike commercial holidays, this day doesn’t require grand gestures or expensive gifts. At its heart, it’s about thoughtfulness, intention, and making her feel seen.
Tell her to grow up and stop being a victim over a stupid day ffs 🤦♀️
How childish to crack the shits over this hahaha 🤣
Info: Did she spoil you on National Boyfriend day?
Jeezus! I wish I was young and immature again. Info: what did she do last year on national bf day?
To answer your question, whether it’s a big deal or not is dependent on you and your partner. Since you seem to have a disconnect here about what is or isn’t important, you should sit her down and specifically go over with her what are the important dates to her and her expectations for those days. Give her your same list – this can include sports or cultural days ie superbowl, Cinco de mayo.
Level up adult relationship test: apologize to her and ask her for her list. Wait and see if she asks for your list before you say anything further. If she doesn’t, then she’s a self-centered person and you should reconsider this relationship.
Everyone has their thing, it’s how they communicate it and the intentions behind them that makes all the difference. NTA for being blindsided by (imo) a dumb event.
There’s a 100% chance this girl misses the equivalent day for boyfriends. She sounds very self absorbed
Google it – national girlfriends day is about female friendships. Not romantic girlfriend 🤣🤦♀️
NTA it’s a cute thing to acknowledge if you’re chronically online, and means nothing if you aren’t
LOL National Girlfriend Day? I have never heard of anything this stupid. NTA
I didn’t even know National Girlfriends Day existed. Kind of doubting, honestly. This is nonsense. NTA
Never heard of it and I’m all over social media. My wife had to google it. NTA
Lol! Thank you for the laugh, but wtf is that. Nevermind. I worked at a flower shop and never heard of it.
Godspeed.
NTA
NTA – I didn’t even know there was a “national girlfriends day” that’s some really stupid crap, besides just look up what it’s actually about and realize you already do that everyday, she can get over it, she’s acting spoiled about it considering you plan dates consistently enough that you have two soon, she should be happy with that, a lot of girls would be in fact.
Please Google what National Girlfriend day is. It doesn’t have anything to do with men or partners or your girlfriend.
There’s a difference between forgetting and not knowing. I think it’s more weird for her to be expecting you to be fully aware of this ‘national’ holiday the whole nation wasn’t aware of, and excepting a whole thing for something you didnt know to plan for. Maybe take her out a few hours earlier before your date and do something extra fun to ‘make up’ for it?
If this is really a thing, I guess my SO is TA too.
Lmfao wow. NTA
National what now? NTA
NTA. It is not for that type of girlfriend, it is to celebrate girls that are friends with each other. It is for platonic friendships.
NTA – did she do anything for you on National Boyfriend Day?
NTA — these “national” days are getting ridiculous, and that your GF got even remotely upset that you didn’t know about some new, obscure, made up holiday is nuts. She sounds like she is not mature enough to be in a relationship. That you cared enough to to try to positively respond to it late at night, when you figured out why she was playing unwarranted silent treatment games all day. says she doesn’t deserve you. For reference, we already have a girlfriends day — it’s called Valentines Day, and you can tack on all the “it’s our X-month anniversary , my birthday, Christmas, etc., etc. I’m a woman, and I want to tell your GF to grow the eff up.
Definitely NTA.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 no Nta. I told my boyfriend as a joke and he laughed at me and asked what I got him for national boyfriend day. I’m sorry this is definitely a young people thing (we are 27 and 30)
It’s 1:00 am where I am, so I missed it. I’ve never heard of it. Looked it up, and it’s apparently to be celebrated between “girlfriends.”
Don’t celebrate fake holidays. You’re both young, but your gf seems immature.
NTA. Besides, if most guys celebrated it and their wives found out, it would be brutal!
NTA how can she expect something, when it feels like she doesn’t do it for you. I’m not saying love has to be transactional. But if she completely missed Valentine’s Day? It might be good if you two have a talk about where this relationship is going as well as expectations and goals.
I have a feeling that declaring “thank you for your service” would not go over well in any case
Nta. She’s doing you favor whether you can see it or not…you need to bounce.
What did you get for Spiderman today
you got short replies and then silence because the girl you CHOOSE to date every single day is mad at you for not… celebrating her today? on this literal made up day? girl, bye. next. i would hate for anyone to be rude to me for giving them all my time and love when i can. inbetween REAL LIFE.
maybe she hates herself.