So I (24F) work at a retail store. one of my coworkers, lets call him Dave, keeps asking me to cover his shifts last minute because he has “stuff going on”. I’ve covered for him probably 5 times in the last month. Thing is, when I ask Dave to cover my shifts, he always has an excuse or just doesn’t show up. Yesterday, he asked me again for help and I straight up said no. He complained to the manager that I’m being “selfish” and “not a team player”, but honestly I feel like I’m being taken advantage of.
AITA for refusing to cover his shift when he never helps me back??
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So I (24F) work at a retail store. one of my coworkers, lets call him Dave, keeps asking me to cover his shifts last minute because he has “stuff going on”. I’ve covered for him probably 5 times in the last month. Thing is, when I ask Dave to cover my shifts, he always has an excuse or just doesn’t show up. Yesterday, he asked me again for help and I straight up said no. He complained to the manager that I’m being “selfish” and “not a team player”, but honestly I feel like I’m being taken advantage of.
AITA for refusing to cover his shift when he never helps me back??
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> 1) I refused to cover a coworkers shift after repeatedly covering his shifts without any reciprocation. when he asked again last minute i said no
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NTA. He isn’t a team player. He is a leech. Your mistake is not talking to your manager first about it
Easy one. NTA. He constantly bails on you and expects you to cover for him.
I mean, if this man has do much going on that he’s not able to show up to work regularly when he’s rostered to – is it likely that he’d be able to pick up other people’s shifts?
To me, doubtful.
Sounds like your Manager knows what his issue is & reacted as though you do too.
NAH.
Just stop asking him, it’s not the most logical thing to do & take the extra money as the only reward for covering for him.
Nta
NTA. Also speak to your manager. Dave is taking you for a ride.
Nope. NTA. He is taking advantage and he sucks.
Nta. You’re never obligated to cover shifts
NTA no. Not at all.
Dave’s not here, man.
NTA
NTA. I would do it a couple of times or every once in a while without expecting anything in return. Five times in a month, plus last minute, and especially not covering for you when you needed it is a no for me, though. Dave appears to be selfish and not a team player. Good for you for not being his doormat anymore.
NTA, his lack of responsibility is not your problem. And I can almost guarantee you manager doesn’t believe that bs he is spewing