I love my girlfriend but I think about the possibility of having sex with other people. she’s perfect does nothing wrong id be stupid to mess it up but my heart feels weird I feel unsure about our relationship but I also want a future with her I’m just not sure if I’m good for her I also have a porn addiction and my mind is full of women when I’m alone does this mean Im not in love or is it my addiction? Im not looking for love when I think about other woman I just want sex so I feel stupid for risking losing a woman that could be my wife
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100% your porn addiction. If you look into it, it affects you heavily in your relationship. I recommend seeking therapy for it. Believe me when I say this, a porn addiction can cause serious damage to your brain and relationship. Seek help dude, I promise you it’ll be for the better. Don’t stay if you’re not willing to put in work to change your bad habits. She doesn’t deserve that. Don’t break her heart.
Well first of all. Try stopping your porn addiction. See how you feel after that. Or if you want to mess around with other people, do it. It’s your life, but don’t string along someone else. Have respect for that person at least.
You’re definitely showing your age. Going to throw away a good woman because you simply don’t want to be loyal yet? Great, go screw her up emotionally forever and make her wonder why she wasn’t good enough because you’re a child. Do what you want, but I think you’ll regret it later in life when all that’s left to choose from is women rejected because they’re single for a good reason you simply won’t know about for six months. Consider your options carefully. I wonder what 50 year old you would tell 24 year old you if he could.
Bro leave porn. Focus on your girl. Time will come!
I’d drop the porn if I were you little bro, then see how you feel
Why do you think you could suddenly get to bang all those other women if you wanted to? Are you so smoking hot that they’d all overlook that you’re a cheating porn addict? Or, more likely, would you blow up your life on an unrealistic fantasy and end up single and celibate?
Rein in your boner, chief. And fgs ditch the porn habit.
Leave her. She deserves better and you’re both too young to settle.
I can only suggest you have an appointment with a sexuologist. Also, whoever told you that when you’re in love your brain automatically stops seeing other people as attractive is a liar. It does not work like that. What does matter is for you to choose your significant other over everyone else every day. If you can do that, and pair it with therapy, you’ll be ok. Otherwise, just live your life dude, so long as you are honest with yourself and everyone around you. That also matters.
please go to therapy and do not ruin a good thing for an irresponsible pipe dream. porn addiction is nasty and it will affect how you view women. quit while you still have someone that loves and cares about you
Sure, go ahead and break the heart of someone you claim to love, and the moment you set foot outside as a single guy you’re going to have hoards of women throwing themselves at you. And I’m sure that will all be worth it in the end Yeah, go ahead.
Or, you know, stop watching porn, get your head on straight and appreciate the good things in your life before you ruin them with ridiculous fantasies.
Definitely your porn addiction, cause the reality is, probably less than 1% of the women you’d want to have sex with would actually indulge in your fantasy. You need to seriously tackle this and talk to your girlfriend asap.
Normal in your age. Life is about you.