Hi all,
My girlfriend and I have been together for around 5 and a half years. Now it’s getting to the stage where we are both looking ahead, and not seeing a clear path. She lives in London, and I live up north (around 3.5 hours away). Her career only exists in London so she tells me, or other larger metropolitan cities like Manchester, etc. I’m a software dev, so in theory I could get a job anywhere.
The problem is these 5 years haven’t been smooth in the sense that we’re able to build or do something together. The love is there and very strong, but now we’re at a crossroads. She doesn’t want/can’t (due to no jobs) move far from family/friends in London, which leaves the only real option for me to leave my job and where I live to move in with her down south somewhere.
I’m struggling, as I don’t know if this is one of those situations in life where you just have to take a leap of faith. I realise I’m missing out on lot’s of context, but for me it took me a long long time and a lot of struggling to get where I am today, and have only been in my current role & in IT for about 1.5years, and am anxious to so quickly move on after only really getting in. Also, I am from London originally and don’t really want to go back somewhere I feel like I wouldn’t be able to afford a good life.
I’m at a stage where I can tell now from our conversations that the hope that something might happen is dying, and that frustration is coming out, which I totally understand.
I’m really unsure what to choose or what to do about this whole situation. Please, if anyone has any advice, or any opinions to share it would be greatly appreciated just to get another perspective on this.
Thank you.
tldr: we’ve both come to a crossroads in the relationship which means 1 of us will have to sacrifice. What do?
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It sounds like you’re pretty firm on not wanting to move. You also keep implying that she’s lying or exaggerating about where she can get a job.
College sweethearts I’m assuming yeah not everybody gets to date or have relationships in their young youthful years like that lots of people surpass their mid-20s and older and have never been with anyone