I dont even know where to begin…so i guess ill start here i(38m) have been dating my SO (40F) for 2 years i recently found out she cheated on me a month and a half into our relationship with a “18” year old twice for drugs in exchange for other things. Let me just start with her character…she has been a great woman after we moved in together she packs me lunch she takes care of me and she has made me feel safe and not at edge after work. Due to some things i take care of her and she has been a great woman, one that i have always dreamed of meeting as we are engaged now and plan on having a kid which is something we always wanted. Shes a very caring person and very polite…she has had a lot of trauma in her past and was almost killed by an ex. I have had my share of trauma myself so we have understood each other and have growned with each other. In my opinion this has been the best woman i have ever met…but now i have things running thought my mind. Because last month she went to the store with no bra on and i wanna say intentionally but idk to buy some drinks knowing a guy (20) likes her. She told me about it…she was there for less than 5 minutes talking to him from what she said. This obviously made me feel very uncomfortable. We both look like were in our late 20s if that helps. I confronted her about it and i also went to the store to confront him and spoke to the manager about him hitting on her….she has told him multiple times to not hit on her because shes engaged he still did it. Even after i confronted him and spoke to the boss he still did it. So we stopped going to the store all together. But my concern is she obviously likes young males….due to attention from them….what are your guyses thoughts?
Found out now fiancee cheated on me early in relationship with an “18” year old…how should i proceed?
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Bro leave her
My advice in regards to cheating significant others continues to be to break up with them
She cheated not once, but twice just for drugs and you Still say she’s a great Women?!!
Do i need to say more. Have a good day.
She was so willing to trade sex for drugs.
Sex for drugs.
How well you think that’ll bode for you if you get married and it continues.
And then your assets are merged and it won’t just be her debt, but your debt too.
I’m not saying she can’t be a kind, loving and good person.
But this is that sign that says it’s time to close this chapter.
“we have understood each other and have growned with each other.”
You haven’t understood each other at all. You don’t even know her, she’s been lying to you for the entire time you’ve been together. You have zero clue what is going on in her mind. She can outwardly be as caring and polite as you like, that won’t stop her legs from springing open when she gets the opportunity with one of the young guys she seems to like so much.
How did you find out? I bet she didn’t tell you herself. She isn’t trustworthy. She isn’t honest. She isn’t faithful. She isn’t wife and mother material. Get checked for STD’s. If you’ve got any sense you’ll leave. Somehow I don’t think you will. Your post seemed like a parade of excuses for her.
Worthless. Dump her.
Bro, after reading your other responses, I have to ask, do you have applesauce for brains? leave her.
You should read your own messages in a year, after you broke up , and realize you made the best decision in your life.
Move on and love yourself.
You need more than a trauma bond to stay together. Trust and communication are the most important things.
She needs to get her shit together. You will enable her if you let this slide.
Do the right thing for your peace and tranquility. GTFO now
What are our thoughts?
My first thought is you have no self respect. No dignity.
Your fiance screwed some 18 year old for drugs and other things.
The choice is simple. Stop being foolish. You dump her asap.
Updateme!
Planning to have children with a cheater & drug user is a horrible idea.
Cheats once WILL DEFINITELY cheat again
You can take the woman out of the streets, but you’ll never get the streets out of the woman if she’s lived it for half her lifetime. Think of all the negatives and red flags you see, and indifference will come naturally. It did in my case.