Okay so
Yesterday my friend was like “Do you wanna go see Tyler The Creator at Osheaga (music festival) tomorrow, my friend bailed on me” so I was like “yea sure” thinking he had two tickets, one for him and one for his friend thats no longer going
and then THIS MORNING, as I’m about to leave to get to the festival, I ask him where we should meet and he’s like “How did you get a ticket? They’re all sold out”
So not only did he expect me to buy a ticket when he didnt even tell me to buy one (plus theyre over 250$ and i have 2$ to my name), he expected me to buy it in the short time limit between when he asked and this morning when they weren’t sold out.
I was all dressed up and ready, I was going to bring drawings I made that I wanted to show Tyler, I was genuinely so excited to see him as I missed out on his concert in July
I haven’t really confronted him about it yet, I only told him I was sad that I couldn’t come, But i ranted about it to many people. I do get that I should’ve asked more questions and have asked him to be clearer, but situations have happened lile this before where he DID have his friend’s ticket and lend it to me, so I expected it to be the same deal. Should I be this mad about this?
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Okay so
Yesterday my friend was like “Do you wanna go see Tyler The Creator at Osheaga (music festival) tomorrow, my friend bailed on me” so I was like “yea sure” thinking he had two tickets, one for him and one for his friend thats no longer going
and then THIS MORNING, as I’m about to leave to get to the festival, I ask him where we should meet and he’s like “How did you get a ticket? They’re all sold out”
So not only did he expect me to buy a ticket when he didnt even tell me to buy one (plus theyre over 250$ and i have 2$ to my name), he expected me to buy it in the short time limit between when he asked and this morning when they weren’t sold out.
I was all dressed up and ready, I was going to bring drawings I made that I wanted to show Tyler, I was genuinely so excited to see him as I missed out on his concert in July
I haven’t really confronted him about it yet, I only told him I was sad that I couldn’t come, But i ranted about it to many people. I do get that I should’ve asked more questions and have asked him to be clearer, but situations have happened lile this before where he DID have his friend’s ticket and lend it to me, so I expected it to be the same deal. Should I be this mad about this?
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> 1: I didn’t buy the tickets for a concert when my friend wasn’t being clear if he wanted me to buy them or not, then getting mad that he went without me
2: I could’ve asked him more questions and have asked him to be clearer, but instead just stopped texting him
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NTA. Your friend’s comment was absolutely AH behavior. What friend bailed? Did that friend have tickets?
Not only could you not have known to buy tickets, not have been able to afford tickets back when they were available, but they were sold out. Your ‘friend’ apparently wanted to rub your nose in the fact that you’re missing another concert you want to go to.
Obviously, you should have coordinated with this person if you were actually planning on going, so getting all dressed up and heading to a festival for which you don’t have a ticket seems weird. It’s unlikely that this is the first time this person has been an unreliable narrator.
It obviously was some sort of miscommunication, but you ranting about it to other people makes YTA.
What is there to confront him about? You didn’t follow up with anything, you just assumed he was gifting you a ticket? And even if he had a spare ticket, what makes you think he’d give it to you for free? And gifting you a $250 ticket gets a ‘yeah sure’ response? Maybe he would have but was put off from your tepid response.
NTA. Why would your friend invite you to a festival that he knew was sold out if he didn’t have an extra ticket? That makes him the asshole. If I were in your shoes and was told someone bailed on him, I would also think he was asking me to use the extra ticket.
Yta you’re way too mad about something you put in zero effort for. It’s not hard to ask about the ticket situation. He shouldve told you, classic miscommunication but you putting all the blame on him and ranting to others just puts you in such a bad light. Especially when you expected a free ticket out of it
I would definitely talk to him about it. You don’t have to be angry, but he should know how much that letdown affected you. Especially if this kind of thing keeps happening
Esh
ESH Him for inviting you without talking about the ticket and probable difficulty in getting one, and you for just assuming you were going to be given a ticket for free — you should have confirmed that and at least asked whether you would have to pay for it. Even if you assumed he had a ticket you could use, why would you take it for granted that you would be getting it for free, especially when you had no money to pay for it if you had to? You were both ridiculous in your assumptions and lack of communication in your own ways.