i 19f have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now he’s really sweet and kind one of those matcha latte and feminist literature guys you see on tiktok. he’s also incredibly funny and goes out of his way to do things with me and include me even when most of the time i’m to overwhelmed to really enjoy the activities (im in the middle of getting an autism diagnosis so that’s why i get overwhelmed easily) we have a he talks i listen relationship which is great i could listen to him talk for days.
my friends however hate him. i don’t have a very big friend group or a lot of friends in general (5f and 2m) the first time we went on a date they said “he looks like he’d mount your eye balls on his walls” and kept commenting on his looks. which isn’t fair and i told them as much he’s very handsome and even if he was hideous it wouldn’t matter i don’t care about that stuff. i told him they said that and we had a good laugh about it it’s now an inside joke of ours where he points at his shelf and says “that’s where im gonna display your eyes” which my friends think is disturbing.
my friends have made numerous comments about his personality and looks saying stuff like “you’re to pretty for him” and “he’s annoying like a dog that doesn’t stop barking”
here’s where i think i’m the a hole. my boyfriend has an ex girlfriend who calls him and just harasses him constantly I’m talking non stop anonymous phone calls for 2 hours straight it’s pretty much stopped for the most part now but it was pretty non stop at the start of our relationship. about a month ago i started receiving calls just like it i ignored it for the most part but at some point they forgot to turn off no caller id and it was my best friends number.
i was annoyed and asked her why tf she was doing that. she confessed and told me they thought if i believed i was being harassed by his ex id break up with him. i was fuming at this point and told her she needs to back tf off and my relationship is none of her business. the whole friend group had been ignoring me for the past couple of days until last night where they put me into a group chat for an ‘intervention’.
they kept saying how i could do so much better than my bf and they just wanted me to see how annoying he truly was. they’ve never even met him they refuse to. i told them all to f off and left the group chat they all keep spamming my phone saying i was rude and need to apologise.
so AITA? i feel like one but at the same time they’re being plain rude and disrespectful to my bf and my relationship. any advice would be great
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GIRL NO 😭 u are SO not the asshole here. ur “friends” literally stalked and harassed u to try to break u up w someone who treats u well?? that’s not friendship. that’s manipulative af. good for u for cutting them off tbh
Definitely NTA! This is not how friends treat each other, you’re well rid of them
NTA, you deserve to be happy. Your friends are petty.
NTA. Their behavior is very weird.
You should definitely break up, lol
NTA Your “friends” are acting like a clique and they’re mad you’re dating someone they don’t approve of. Best to go no contact with all of them until they can act like adults.
NTA. That’s not how friends treat each other, they need to grow up.
These are not friends. Block them, mourn the lose and move on. Good thing though, you found a bf to help you through it. Also, the shelf joke is hysterical 🤣 NTA
you need to make new friends if those people are so shallow they are judging bf so much on his appearance. You are a listener and he is a talker at the extremes of that spectrum. people with more average communication are likely to find him insanely annoying, but harassing you is a terrible way for them to respond to annoyance with your bf.
NTA
There’s an old adage that says, “single women keep other women single”.
Not sure if it’s a sexist comment, when it originated, but I’ve heard it many times. I’ve witnessed it a few times. The same ridiculous and outlandish comments about the guy isn’t good looking enough, doesn’t make enough, doesn’t fit in with the friend group, etc.
I’ve seen a few women cave and leave their relationship, I’ve seen only a few rebel and stay with the guy.
I do know this, a friend wants what’s best for their friends. If your friends group is bashing your boyfriend, encouraging you to leave for no reason, they’re people you shouldn’t want in your life.
Your clique has a group psychosis? Who would be that invested in someone’s love life? Block them and move on. They sound like a bunch of sad lunatics. They seem to be led by the “best friend” who was making the phone calls she is the narcissistic ring leader and they’re her lackeys and flying monkeys. I say she is jealous of you and the one pulling the strings. Best to remove yourself they will implode as a group anyway. Tell your family members and warn them about this girl she will likely try contact them through social media making up stories that your in a toxic relationship.
They sound like some pretty bad people commenting on his looks and shit it almost sounds like one of your guy friends is jealous you’re not dating them
I mean do you want to be friends with these people? Cuz at a certain point it’s gonna come down to ur bf or them. Because they’re not gonna stop they’ve already tried something and it’ll only get worse. Honestly for your boyfriend I would tell him to break up with u if you still insist on being friends with them because they could do something next that winds him in handcuffs
NTA but if you keep being friends with these people you will be.
And STOP LENDING THEM MONEY!
You know they are never going to pay you back, right? Are you that desperate for friends that you need to pay people to abuse you? Because that is what you are doing.
NTAH. Your friends are unsupportive jerks! They don’t want what’s best for you….they want what’s best for themselves. I have a feeling you do a lot of things for a lot of them but now that bf is around your not as accessible to them
Your friends sound a lot more annoying than he could ever be.