I stopped talking to her because we were both in secret competition and copied eachother for years! But that relationship was and still is really meaningful for me, even after years appart! So I started educating myself on WHY people copy you? And it turns out it’s because they admire you and don’t have the confidence to be themselves! That’s exactly what happened, we both admired eachother while not knowing who we were, so we copied everything about eachother, and then this led to competition! Almost 4 years has passed and I feel like we are both confident women now and we each have our own life going on. And my frontal lobe developped so I would never do something weird like this again!
I keep dreaming we are friends again, I really want to reach out, but I don’t know how she would respond / if she would respond!
If you were in her shoes, what would you do?
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Tbh, life’s way too short for routine beef over old baggage. If y’all really had that deep bond, reach out, see if she’s genuinely changed. Pretty sure she’s mature too. 4 yrs is a long time, peeps grow. Worst-case scenario? She dismisses – you move on. Best case? Gain a good friend again. U might regret it if u don’t at least try. Go for it, mate! 💪 Just my 2 cents tho ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I would tell them that I’m happy for them that they changed, and that it’s too bad that they didn’t change before our friendship terminated. Then I would not speak to that person again.Â