English isn’t my first language, so I used ChatGPT to help me write this clearly. I really appreciate you taking the time to read it.
I (25F) recently finished a one month internship where my supervisor (31M) clearly flirted with me. He didn’t wear a wedding ring. No signs of a relationship no photos, no mentions. He was warm, attentive, and made me feel noticed in a way that really got to me. I started to develop feelings.
He only told me he was married after my internship ended. We met up once just to talk. He said he was in an unhappy marriage, and that he had a child.
They had tried couples therapy, but according to him, it never helped. He said they were both exhausted, but too afraid to actually go through with a divorce.
I’m honestly heartbroken.
During my internship, I used to imagine that after it ended, we might go out, laugh, have fun just enjoy each other freely.
Now all of that feels like it sank under water, and I’m drowning with it. I still don’t hate him.
I tried to make my boundaries clear. I told him: I’ve just entered your life. You’ve been living like this for years. I can walk away. You have to figure it out.
Nothing physical happened but being with him made me feel alive. I laughed a lot. I genuinely enjoyed being around him. Even though I knew the situation was wrong, in that moment, it felt good.
During our conversation, there was a moment when he looked away and I noticed his eyes welling up. It caught me off guard. I wanted to reach out to comfort him. Even now, I still feel that urge to show him kindness. I don’t know what to do with that feeling.
The next day, he asked to meet again. I said no. But I almost said yes.
What really messes with me is: I still want to see him.
I feel guilty for even thinking that. I hate that I’m holding on to someone who wasn’t honest with me from the start.
He kept his whole life hidden a marriage, a kid and now that I know, I feel like I’m the only one trying to be responsible about it.
Part of me wants to meet him again for closure.
Another part wants to just text him goodbye and walk away completely.
I’d really appreciate honest advice.
Comments
You don’t look for “closure” from a married cheating creep. Move on.
Damn, that’s a tough spot you’re in. Not gonna sugarcoat it, yeah, you caught feels, but dude hid a family from you. That ain’t chill. My 2 cents? Tbh, you won’t find closure in a meetup, it’s just a disguise for another hookup chance. Don’t feed into that. Block him off and keep it moving. Feelings will suck for a bit, but trust, you’ll bounce back stronger. Stand firm, you got this! 💪💯
I’m going to hold your hand as I say this. I was around your age when I learned all men like this say they are in a bad marriage, and their wife doesn’t understand them, blah blah blah. It is all a big fat lie. He is a creep, and not worth one more second of your time, or any more of your thoughts. There. There’s your closure.
You need to find the part of you that wants to block and move on. That is the part of you that is the strongest, fiercest and most badass. Do not engage further. I know you want to, but do not. You’re leaning into pick me territory,. This will not end well for you if you do. Cheating almost never ends with the affair partner. Just walk away with dignity and don’t look back. You’ll respect yourself more I promise you.