Hi.
I’m 20F, and my mom [50F} became disabled 3 years ago. She’s been battling a disease for a while but started depending on a wheelchair in 2022.
She’s never been a good mother; never cared about me and verbally abused me throughout my childhood. And in return, I never cared either; until 2022.
After 2022, I’ve been joking with her and cheering her up because I can see the toll her health has taken on her. She’s been surprisingly adaptive to her circumstances, which I honestly respect, but at the same time has no intent whatsoever to take care of her health to not worsen it. Mind you, she’s always been like this even before her disease; had no concern for her health. She’s also not someone who had a hobby; she was out all the time to either shop or eat. She didn’t want to take up a job, didn’t want to raise her kid nor did she want to help with household chores, and this was all pre-disease.
Anyway, now she’s bored and sad, which I can see. I’m trying my best to help her because at the moment we cannot afford expensive therapy. I try to engage her in activities but she says no to everything. And in the night she tells me that she doesn’t want to live.
What do I do? Would be highly grateful for any tips, advice or personal anecdotes. Thank you!!