Hi, this is more of a messy rant but I’ll take any advice I can get. English isn’t my first language and I’m European so please keep that in mind. Sorry if my post is too long. So my girlfriend’s birth control failed most likely due to some other medication that was prescribed to her when she got sick. And we found out she was pregnant about a month ago so she’s around 8 weeks along now. After thinking about our options for a long time we decided to keep the baby. I feel lucky to have a good support system and that we can both continue our education and have access to childcare and help from family. My girlfriend agreed to move in with me to my parents home, where we have a guest room which will hopefully be turned into a nursery soon. I’m doing my best to be supportive of my gf and try to help her the best I can but she’s been having the worst morning sickness lately as well as headaches. I’m so anxious as well. I just want everything to be okay with my gf and our baby. There’s another issue too, with my “in laws”. They’re very sweet and supportive towards my girlfriend but they’ve been pretty cold towards me. Apparently they think I’m too young for her and irresponsible and I will just leave my gf behind the first chance I get. I just want them to accept me and see me as a good partner for their daughter.
So how can I be less anxious and more supportive of my gf? Do you have any book or forum recommendations for learning more about babies and pregnancy? Do you have any suggestions or advice for me? Is there anyone here who was a young dad? Did you regret it? Did it affect your how people perceive you, especially your peers or other parents? Is there anything I can do to make my in laws like me more? Is it possible they’ll warm up to me with time?
Thank you for reading
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Dude, first off, props to you for stepping up. Sure, it’s scary as all hell, but trust, it’ll get less intimidating with time. As for ur GF’s morning sickness, keep snacks around like crackers, and ginger tea can help. For the in-laws, just show them consistency and they’ll come around. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Yeah, ur young, but that doesn’t define maturity. As for books, What to Expect When You’re Expecting is pretty solid. Lol, welcome to uncharted territories, bro. Stay strong, you got this! ✌️💪
Dude, first off, props to you for stepping up. Sure, it’s scary as all hell, but trust, it’ll get less intimidating with time. As for ur GF’s morning sickness, keep snacks around like crackers, and ginger tea can help. For the in-laws, just show them consistency and they’ll come around. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Yeah, ur young, but that doesn’t define maturity. As for books, What to Expect When You’re Expecting is pretty solid. Lol, welcome to uncharted territories, bro. Stay strong, you got this! ✌️💪
You sure you did in this day & time, the world is turning to shit. Too expensive to live as it is just think what he’ll be paying by the time he’s grown. That’s if humans are even still here. Not wiped out by aliens or nukes
Hey! I don’t know much about this but as a woman I can understand why her parents are so defensive at the moment, they’re scared and have reasons too, not from you but from how many times we see that happen in society, if I were her mum I would also be terrified. I feel like they will loosen up w time, they will see how much effort you’re putting in, asking for recommendations and taking suggestions this openly is a great start, I can see how much you care and they will too, it’s just a matter of time and of demonstrating through actions that you are responsible and gonna take care of your gf and your baby. I’m also 19 and can’t imagine how hard it must be to have all of these responsibilities thrown over me like this, you’re very brave.
Wish you the best! Hope everything turns out well!
Just a possibility: Your girlfriend should ask her doctor for anti morning sickness medication if she cannot eat properly, I live in Europe as well, I am currently pregnant and suffering really bad from hyperemesis gravidarum but the medication helps (there is proven medication with doxylamin which is totally safe) and it is usually prescribed to all women with morning sickness that is not managable with diet changes. Eating normally really helps to manage the huge changes the pregnant person is going through. But she should definitely speak to her doctor about the headaches if she had not yet done that. I was advised that headaches in pregnancy might be a sign of some serious issues.
Good luck to you both.