So I met my girlfriend at a restaurant in Dallas and we hit it off pretty quick. We hung out for a while and I started taking her out on dates then she told me she actually lives in Florida and came here for the summer I was pretty bummed but we decided to try long distance till she could visit again so now we have been talking for a while and pretty recently I have been getting more hours at work so we have less time to call and text I communicated this to her and she said that’s fine but now she is blowing my phone up asking to call and I have to get my phone out and tell her to stop (no devices allowed on shift) but she’s been doing this everyday almost 15 times a day I confronted her last week and she began calling me a cheater and that all her friends think I’m cheating and if I don’t text her on shift we are over, so naturally I explain that I can’t do that and she begins pounding me with all these questions and accusations. I eventually get her to calm down and we move on then it happens again and again and again and I don’t know what to do, I love her very much and I want this to work but if it keeps happening than not sure if it can.
Any ideas?
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I’ve known and dated girls like this. It doesn’t change. It doesn’t get better. Leave now for your own sanity.
Yikes man, that’s a huge red flag. Ngl, it sounds like she’s super insecure and instead of dealing with it, she’s dumping all that emotional chaos on you. If she can’t respect your time, your job, and basic boundaries, that’s not a healthy relationship. Don’t let guilt trap you in something that’s clearly burning you out.
The only way for this to work is to take charge and put your foot down. To be honest though, I highly doubt she will change, she either has a lot of emotional issues or very immature
It seems like she won’t change her attitude. I agree with these other comments, I think it’s best to leave. Especially if you already tried to sit down and talk to her. You’ve got it 😊
This is how abusive relationships start. You’ll be as much to blame as she is even if she is the aggressor. Thats not what I like to say. It’s the world we are in. Leave now, she won’t hurt any less.
God please use punctuatiom
My sister in law would be mad at my older brother for not coming home on time… but your girlfriend should consider your future if there a future for you guys. Financial money /job/hours is important and money in life. Can’t fix the relationship find someone who is pantince and understand maturity in life.
Cut the bitch. She’s toxic. Cut the bitch yesterday.
Turn off your phone while at work
Either get a new phone number or block her. Life will be much better, I promise
You sound very young so I assume this is your first relationship. Leave, what she’s doing is not healthy.
I’m really sorry, it really sucks but this isn’t something you can fix. You’re not doing anything wrong, she’s very insecure and that’s something she has to decide to fix herself. If you continue the relationship, this is how your life is going to be from here on out.
I like it when they chase me like this. The excitement of a rogue knife to the chest at 2am really gets me going.
You know there’s other women in the world, right? Lots of them understand that you have to work. Hell some of them really like a man who takes his job seriously. This girl take your virginity or something? She holding your family hostage?
Tell her clearly what your work schedule is, and that she has to smarten the hell up and ignore her stupid friends. You will not read or reply during your work shift (and stick to that: turn off your phone, put it away). If she can’t trust you, there’s no future.
You dump her and block her. That simple.
I had a friend that did this to her husband and they ended up homeless for a few years in the car because she didn’t want him to leave her side and then he missed out on his daughters life during those years from a previous marriage and the story goes on. He eventually left her and I’m not her friend anymore but that is what this story reminds me of. You need to be a man and tell a woman no and stand your ground. How else will you provide later in life?
Why put up with psycho behaviour?The only advice you need from us is to dump her. It won’t get any better and why risk your job?
If she can’t handle that you’re focused on work when you’re working, she’s not going to be one to handle any actual problem. She’ll just keep making your life more stressful and difficult for no reason. This one is not worth it.
Break up with her. No girlfriend – no problem.
Tell her to do one. She’s crazy.
Are you 12? You block her and move on.
LDR are no good. Leave for that reason alone.
Tell her to respect your boundaries and stop with the accusations, if she can’t do those things … move on.
Dude, don’t even try to make this work. She’ll never change and is going to get you fired for keep checking your phone. And it’s long distance. Just break up and block. You don’t have to be mean or anything just end things. It’s not going to get any better
RUN! RUN AWAY! RUN QUICKLY!