14F here, he’s never been aggressive before, idk what happened. we were at an arcade at the mall and he looked angry and he smacked my arm as he walked by me. my arm was stinging for five minutes. im not gonna bring this up to my mom because she’ll just defend him and be like “don’t make this a big deal; he’s a good dad!” then she’ll force him apologize and i just don’t want that. i want an authentic apology.
but yeah it’s been a few hours since it happened and i just can’t stop thinking about it and crying now that im home. idk what to do
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Getting hit isn’t love. Speak up or they’ll think silence is permission.
Try to talk to him alone when he is calm that in case you didn’t. Nothing bad, but either cases violations weren’t and will not be the solution
Why did he smack you? Was it for no reason or did you do something?
You can back up and bring your arms up defensively, as if you feared another blow, every time he says something slightly negative. He may get the point and apologize. On the other hand, he may feel like he has done nothing wrong, and then you’re stuck.
I’m sorry.
I’m a dad. I spanked my kids with a wooden spoon for bad behavior from the time they were 6 to the time they were 10, then stopped and started using non-physical punishments. 14 is too old to slap kids, usually.
When I was 19 and had a summer job with the Forest Service, living with a crew of other college-aged men in the wilds, my language got coarse. Wildly coarse. One weekend at home I asked my 14-year old sister to “Pass the fucking salt”. My dad back-handed me across the mouth with almost no windup, faster than you’d think a 50+ year old ex-marine could move. I apologized to both profusely. I deserved it.
What could you do….. Hmmm. Coming from a Gen Xer, you SUCK IT UP, if it happens all the time or again it gets worse THEN day something, he probably was just messing with y’all and thought at 14 you could handle it. He didn’t punch you or slap your face, it sounds “playful” in intent. I wasn’t there, so only you know it, but damn, do not be SO soft,
What did you do that caused him to get angry