i (16f) started dating this guy (18m) through a friend. he lives a few hours away so it was a long distance thing. 3 days ago we had an argument because he asked me to send certain pictures of myself. then a day later, he got upset at me because i wasn’t responding to his texts. i was just hanging out with my dad lol.
i see today, at 3 AM, i’m blocked on everything. essentially, relationship over.
now that i’ve been sitting here thinking about it, was it that bad? my therapist says he seemed like a creep. i don’t want to turn this into something it’s not or create a false narrative of him in my head.
just wanted to share. i’m feeling a little confused and lonely. thanks
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He was asking to send nudes and blocked you when you didn’t. Full creep
He definitely is a creep. With a two year age gap it may not have been inappropriate till he asked for the pics. My 18 year old son thinks 16 is too young. But depending on birthdays maybe it’s a 1.5 year gap, not so bad. Maybe it’s 2.5 years, not so great at that age.
At 16 those pics would have been child pornography. He could get in big trouble for having them. I hope you did not send him those pics. If you did, I don’t think there is much you can do, you could ask on a legal sub. Let it go, and try not to stress about it.
Any guy that pushes for those kinds of pics is not worth your time. Once you are old enough that those pics are not illegal you can decide what you’re comfortable with, but there are so many cases where people regret taking them. Any guy that treats you differently because you refuse is not worth your time. Any guy that won’t take no for an answer is not worth your time. I would stay away from guys that want to move to the sexy stuff before you really know each other.
At your age dating should be focused on getting to know each other and seeing what you like in potential long term partners. It should be fun, not hard.