Recap – MIL was mainly tolerable pre pregnancy. Started going crazy during pregnancy. Legitimately crazy after my baby was born including showing up unannounced, sending photos to everyone on her contact list, sending a random man from McDonald’s to deliver a loaded alcoholic cake to my baby’s first birthday party, and then sending a second random man from McDonald’s to deliver a “sorry the first cake was alcoholic” second cake weeks later. DH and I have been NC since the cake debacle a few months ago.
Now – MIL just forwarded DH one of those “forwarded many times” videos. It’s a very bad, clearly AI song called “Vanishing Family Bonds” and is both painfully long (4 minutes) and has the most hokey lyrics ever. There’s a sad looking woman on the cover of the “album”, obviously meant to invoke some realness as a credible artist even though everything about it screams FAKE.
DH continues to wish he was able to have a normal relationship with her. If this “song” spoke so much to her, how hard would it be for her to actually say those things to her own son? Rather than tacitly breaking NC with this useless drivel?
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Narcissistic hoovering at its finest.
The fact she’s gone as far as sending songs like a late 90s emo kid, suggests she’s running out of ideas to force any type of contact that could seem positive. Unfortunately, if that’s the case then even more banshee wailing might be making it’s way to you.
Sorry, just so I’m clear… She sent an alcoholic cake to your baby’s first birthday party with the intention that baby would eat it? Or just as a sort of “friendly gesture” to the adults at the party?
Is she an alcoholic? Why is she sending boozy cakes from McDonald’s? I am confused but intrigued.
She just keeps digging that hole deeper, doesn’t she? File it away as evidence in case you need a restraining order or something.
My MIL ever since me and kids went nc with her and I refuse to reconcile, had been posting and messaging AI videos, Facebook posts once in a while about abandoned, dying, old mothers of sons. She does it for those who only know her story. Because she is the one that actually sabotaged her relationship with her son and isn’t doing anything to fix it.
I love how my husband ignores her manipulative pathetic behavior.
Been lurking and commenting here a long time. The fact that a MIL would send a sappy video instead of an apology, or send an alcohol laden cake to a child’s birthday party in no way surprises me. I am astonished to learn that 1) McD’s has cake and 2) McD’s has alcohol to infuse into cake and 3) McD’s has random men who will deliver said cake to your door. Best of luck dealing with her special deliveries.
Just out of curiosity, as I’m following your story. Do you think she didn’t read that it had alcohol or was she trying to get your child to consume something with alcohol for some awful reason? I’m just trying to figure out if she’s neglectful or all out intentionally trying to harm your child?
Husband need some help to realize and accept that the relationship he wants with her is not going to happen.
Wow, I am not surprised she did this, but I’m sad she did this to her son. Hopefully, DH will reach that point where he realizes a normal relationship with a crazy entitled person is nearly impossible.
Solidarity.
“useless drivel” 🤣😂