Insulted me and my family through our enemies…about how horrible DIL I am. Not once did she mention i did anything good for here.
1. Claims I’m trying to “buy” her son, context my mom gave my SO gifts at the birth of my child a year ago.
2. Lied through teeth about me not cooking or doing anything for her when I was visiting her for a month after 2 years. I literally woke up early so she wouldn’t have to do the dishes alone.
3. Sowed seeds of mistrust between my brothers wife and me. Btw she called her mom (My SIL mom’s) and complained about how horrible DIL i am.
4. Accused me of doing “black magic” whilst in the same sentence saying I will do magic on you and your mom.
5. Accusing of misbehaving with my husbands brother…like FFS…like ex: like not cooking for him (he lives with us currently)
6. Accused me of not buying anything for her. And letting me husband not purchase anything for her too, saying I will cause ruckus if my husband buys her anything. That too all lies.
I just found out about this and I feel heart broken…my family is continents away and all alone with my husband, my kid and his brother ( who hates me with passion) under one roof. This all feels like im in a trance somehow…but can’t get out of or do anything about it. Maybe talking about it can make it less hurtful 💔
I have tried to empathize with this woman. She is the epitome of victimhood. I really thought empathy would work…mind you she has burned all her bridges for all of her relatives (except her sons) now as the eldest DIL she is turning my Husband brothers new wife against me too. Like Women grow up this isn’t soap opera…I feel bad but not so much that I will let you walk all over me.
Im honestly done. Im done being part of her play. I wont let her control me.
If I ever get to be a MIL I wont make mistakes and treat my DIL like this…
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Who is the brother in your house? Your husband’s? If so, he needs to go, now. No matter the circumstance, any adult who hates me can GTFO my house.
If I misunderstood and it’s your son’s brother (half brother through your husband??), obviously that’s more complicated.
Document everything, rally your husband, and let her stew in her own toxicity. Not your job to fix her.
Where is your SO in all of this?! I’m sure some of this is just MIL (“black amgic malarky), but all this talk about not feeding or taking care of your SO and his brother – where is that coming from? If your partner isn’t LOUDLY defending you, I would wonder if MIL is getting this from them. Even if that’s not so, SO needs to be drawing a hard line with mom. I think you need to have a talk about why they’re allowing you to be abused like this.
I had a really similar experience w my (now) MIL and I left because my partner couldn’t/wouldn’t stand his ground or defend me. We worked it out, but #1 rule of getting back toget0her was that he needed to learn how to say “no” to her and that we would always be a united front. He NEEDS to be in your corner.
She’s a toxic mess. You’re done being her pawn, good for you. Block her out, focus on your family. Karma’s a bitch, and she’s got her own demons.
She sounds like a full-time villain with no hobbies. You’re not the DI, you’re just the current scapegoat. Let her spiral alone.