Hi, first of all sorry for my EN. I M33 recently proposed to my fiance F29 marking our 2 year relationship. I have an apartment in the city but because i work remote every month i go a few days to visit my parents, just to spend time with them and because i love the house from the countryside more with the beautiful garden
I always trusted my fiance, me, my parents and my fiance had access to my apartment as i saw no issue by fully trusting her.
While i was visiting my parents usually my fiance was doing the same too, going to her parents to spend time with them, then reunite again at my apartment.
I few months ago while i was at my parents i received messages from my neighbor that lives in the apartment below my apartment. She was telling me that last night she heard sex noises from my apartment. At that time my fiance was at her parents ( or at least that’s what i knew ). I told my neighbor that there is no way, the apartment was empty as we where not there. She said ” then in this case it must have been someone else in your apartment “. At that time honestly i thought that she was simply crazy, the walls are kind of thin, very often i can hear her from below how she screams at her husband, so i didn’t took it seriously, it didn’t even crossed my mind to suspect my fiance, i showed her some screenshots ( yeah i know i was stupid ) and she laughed saying that maybe the young neighbor the lives right near my apartment had a good dicking. Indeed, we have another neighbor who changes men like socks so yeah, i was not suspecting my fiance at that point. For example when i am in my apartment and someone screams in other apartments, it’s very hard to detect where really the source is.
Ok, at a random moment, don’t remember when exactly she brought a sexy red lingerie and said that it’s with the scope to use it with me, i found it nice, but i am not the lingerie kind of guy and never expressed it to her that i would want. I forgot about it and never used it as i am the skin on skin kind of guy.
Oook and it clicked with me one month ago the messages from my neighbor and the sexy lingerie. I caught her with a few little lies, not such big deal, but it got me thinking about that neighbor incident. I called my neighbor and asked more details.
– She informed that she heard only a few times, and in intervals of few days then pause for few weeks and so on, it fits with the pattern we have while we visit our parents.
– She informed that she knows knows exactly when the sound comes from right/left or above. She is a 50 year old women and i told her i want to simulate and jump a bit on the bed. She confirmed that’s exactly the sound she heard.
– They are 3( wife, husband and daughter ) in that apartment and all of them can confirm the sound.
– She informed me that the male finished with sound. Well, i am the silent kind of guy.
– It was late in the night, but doesn’t remember exactly the hour.
-She didn’t hear anymore any sounds after messaging me, but we definitely had sex after that moment.
I confronted my fiance about this and she got very angry for suspecting her:
-i didn’t find anything on her phone
-From her smartwatch she went to sleep at 11:08pm.
-She has pictures from that day that she made some paintings at 5 pm and later at 9pm she has a picture with the logo of house of the dragon tv series and from the background it’s for sure the house of her parents.
-she blames the thin walls and the fact that even we are at the apartment we cannot really detect the source when someone has a fight in another apartment so she says that the neighbor is crazy.
Here is the catch:
-from her house to my apartment she makes only 7 minutes with the car. My parents live 1 hour away.
-at that time i had my car in service and she knew this detail that i could not use my car.
I went to sleep at 10pm that evening and we talked on messages, she replied quite fast.
So what do you think? i am not 100% sure, but something tells me that she is lying. Is pretty much her word vs their word. I just cannot stop thinking about the moment when i simulated the movements in bed, my neighbor confirming me that’s exactly the sound she heard.
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I think that pinpointing where sound comes from in an apartment building is very difficult to be accurate. I used to live above a gym and I thought that it was my neighbors having sex upstairs but later I figured out it was actually from people lifting weights downstairs. Yeah I got the direction completely wrong
Realistically there’s no way you can ever be sure. It’s either you trust your fiancés word or you don’t.
Honestly, dude, if my significant other told me they’d spent this much time discussing the exact location of sex noises with a neighbor to the point of trying to simulate exactly what was going on, I’d think this was a desperate, pathetic attempt to distract from their own sexcapades. You’ve got nothing to go on here but the word of a nosy stranger who definitely needs to get her own life (why doesn’t she just go upstairs and bang on doors, or talk to management, if it’s bugging her that much, instead of stirring shit up with you?), and an experiment with lingerie that didn’t work out. If you’re still convinced your girlfriend’s guilty of something, you’ve got trust issues that go beyond this and you need to sort them out.
I think you need to move to a new apartment. The walls are too thin and the neighbors are too nosy.
OP, you have trusting issues if some random stranger/neighbour can make you doubt your fiance so easy.
It’s worrying how easily trust can unravel when suspicion takes root… but without concrete proof, you’re left with more questions than answers, what’s the first step in clearing your mind and finding clarity?