I don’t really like my job, I don’t really like who I am. I feel completely lost about who I am supposed to be and I feel like now that I’m in my 30s I should’ve figured it out by now. I feel like my dream for my life was a dream for a younger person and now the time has passed. But can I still at least figure myself out?
Can I start my life over at 33 years old?
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Of course you can. Lots of people start over at any age.
Find what you like and don’t be sorry about it! I’m into indoor plants, bread, standing in a hot shower while doing nothing, and lecturing people about how New York water makes New York bagels iconic.
Yes, you can! Try new things and figure it out on your own timeline! Better late than never to find what you love!
Ya, you’re young, dude. Start from scratch and you’ll do fine.
You are 33, yes, you still have a ton of life ahead of you to make mistakes and course correct. Try being 50…
Of course,
It’s never too late for a Coming of Age story.
33 is just fine
Of course you can. Don’t stay on a path you’re unhappy with because of sunk costs; imagine looking back in another 33 years and thinking “boy, I should’ve made a change in my 30s and now it’s too late.”
When I feel like this, my main thought is to move to another city
Yes
Yes. I worked in a. Different industry than I am now, and about that time I made the change, it was a great chance. You can do it!!
30 is the new 20s you can do this all over.
Oh yeah.
It’s just life, my friend. It’s gonna end soon (relatively speaking), which is not a reason to despair but the reason to do what you want (bearing Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness in mind).
What ‘was’ your dream for your life, by the way?
I’ve restarted my life over multiple times in my life. And I’m now in that position now, 33 just like you. Now going through my first divorce after 5 years together and everything seems confusing. But I would say write down a list of what you’re good at, a list of what you’ve always wanted to try out, and what you’d be willing to do to get by.
In the last 2 years, I’ve got gotten injuries that has altered my life and left me a void but it’s also pushed me to be more creative, find new solutions, and learn to trust and forgive yourself. You will drive yourself crazy always thinking what if I had done this or that. Focus on the present and onwards. We still have so much life left. You need to first accept who you are first. We all have things we don’t like about ourselves… everyone is on their own path, we all learn and process things differently.
I’m 29 and feeling similarly, so you are definitely not alone. I’m getting evaluated for ADHD because I feel like that is really controlling my life/options right now. Once I can that handled, I think a lot of things will change for me. I plan to go back to school and do a big career change.
30s is NOT too late. Most people don’t know exactly what they want or are changing through different stages of life. Come up with a plan and take action!
You’re still young and have time to figure things out. Age is just a number. If you don’t like your career you can change it, if you want to go back to school go for it. I used to think the same way but you’re still young and you can make the change, do what makes you happy
It’s never too late to reinvent yourself, especially at 33.
I’m 37 and I’m going through my 3rd reincarnation I think you’re fine. For me personally I just get jaded and bored so I don’t get too bummed, the world changes a lot. The only thing I get bummed about is that starting over is a pain in the ass and I’m just a little too tired and am not a spring chicken. But time to be happy life is short and we’re gonna die.
I’m starting over at 38 due to chronic pain/mental illness. I am terrified and feel like I’m a million years behind….everyone. But we can do it!
Started mine over at 48. You can do it.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It’s completely normal to feel lost or uncertain about your path, especially in your 30s when many people start to reflect on their lives and dreams. Figuring yourself out is a lifelong process. Take small steps to explore what truly makes you happy and fulfilled. Consider trying new activities, taking courses, or even talking to a counselor.
Yes! I left what i thought would be my forever career at about 28. 33 now and i truly enjoy my career. The rest of my life is a work in progress but thats how life works lol
When I was in my early 20s I thought I had quarter life crisis.
When I was nearing 30s I panicked because I haven’t achieved most of what most peers had.
When I’m mid 30s I realized I don’t like my job at all.
I’m now almost 40 and still don’t think I have an idea how my best life would look like.
It’s ok, we are always at a crossroads. Pat yourself on the back that you even got out of bed this morning.
I started over in my 40s. It’s never too late to start living the life you were always meant to have.
If it only takes 4 years of college to get a stable career then yes.
And the first two years are gen ed. So it’s really only TWO years to learn a new profession by that logic.
I went back to school at 32! Some of my classmates are in their 40s, and one lady graduated with me at 58. Age really is just a number if you’re passionate and determined. Good luck!