My first love cheated on me and blocked me on everything, all I want is to be with her but idek that. It only really happens at night and I’m already talking to this new girl which is amazing. I want this new girl but I don’t feel the same excitement as when I first started talking to my first love. Idk what to do I can’t get back with her but I just want to feel the same way about this girl
I can’t get over my first love
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We will always have love for our first love. (Some of us not everyone I should correct myself). Sometimes people want what they can’t have. The way things ended being cheated on and blocked you never got a conclusion. You never got a say. Nothing. I personally think you don’t have any peace with that yet. It’s okay because you didn’t deserve what happened to you. And hard truth to swallow pill: you might never ever get those answers or conclusion. I’d suggest taking your time to heal because even if the new girl is amazing this unhealed version of you could end up hurting that girl the same way the unhealed version of your ex hurt you without realizing it. You deserve peace & happiness.
You probably need some more time to process and get over her. Don’t lead the new girl on, give her more respect than that. Your next girl deserves full love from you. Never pine over a cheater, accept that the person you were with before wasn’t the perfect good person you thought and be happy you found out now than later and keep pushing forward
It seems you are very low self esteem and have a very soft personality, as you still hung up on someone cheated on you. To me cheaters are always trashy people.
You should stay alone and single until you are completely over anyone and mentally mature enough, it is not fair to use other people to heal yourself, that is a very selfish thing, please be a man
That feeling sucks, and it’s way more common than you think. You’re not crazy or broken for still being hung up on your first love, even if she cheated and left. That first deep connection hits different, it’s raw, new, intense, and it imprints on you in a way nothing else really can.
You’re not in love with her anymore, you’re in love with the feeling you had when everything was new and exciting. That first-love high is like a drug, and your brain is chasing that rush- not the person. The truth is, the excitement fades in every relationship eventually, and what replaces it is something deeper: comfort, trust, and real partnership. Give this new girl a fair chance, but don’t force it.
Work on healing yourself first, because if you don’t, you’ll keep comparing everyone to a memory that doesn’t exist anymore