I (20F) have been seeing A (22M) for nearly a month. We met on tinder and talked for nearly a week over text before having our first date. He picked me up on his motorcycle and we did rock climbing, played 8 pool and had dinner together. Our date lasted for just over 6hrs. Throughout the date he consistently checked up on me to make sure I was safe, happy and comfortable. The most touching we did was me hugging him on the motorcycle and our knees touching under the table when we grabbed something to eat. Our second date, it ended in me going over to his and we ended up hooking up. I was so startled as I was unsure about whether he found me attractive during to previous relationships immediately and mainly being intimacy-orientated. FYI, He is so skilled in bed, he made me finish in under a 1minute with his hands alone. Our conversations have remained nonsexual and pleasant. I’ve been over to his place multiple times now and we are always intimate in some way but talking, cooking or viewing different media together always comes first. I am so horny due to his continued respectfulness towards me. I don’t want to ruin it and/or scare him away by being more sexual but the more he continues to not prioritise intimacy in favour of social connection, the more I want to pounce on him. How can I control more overwhelming horniness? I don’t want our relationship to just be sex based but I want to be intimate with him 24/7
A guy I’m seeing is so respectful to the point where I’m horny 24/7. I don’t want to scare him away.
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Honestly, go for it-this guy seems like he really likes you and I bet he’d appreciate if you tell him how you feel when you’re with him
Enjoy the social first, and then go all in on the sexual stuff at the end of the day
Show him
It sounds like you found something really great. It’s so rare these days, especially on dating apps. Have you tried to initiate?
I don’t know what it is but when they’re not desperate and hold back a bit, it really does do it. 🙌
“Fuck me”
> made me finish in under a 1 minute
That seems a bit hasty! Treebeard wouldn’t approve.
I’m not too sure that women scaring guys away by being enthusiastic about sex is really a thing. I mean, it’s possible… but not likely.
Had a partner like that. Grew the courage to tell them upfront how horny I was, and we had the most and best sex I’ve ever had during a relationship. Your actions day to day will show that your relationship isn’t just sex. But a lot of it doesn’t do any harm.
UPDATE: I’m going to talk to him about it in 3 Days time. Hopefully I’ll have something put together by then. If you want to send some conversation pointers that would great otherwise I’ll keep you updated
Just do what feels right for you. And communicate boundaries and expectations. Once you guys know what the other is expecting out of this, then you can both move forward with confidence. And if “no expectations” is the vibe you both want, that is also gine, just be upfront about it.
Just talk to him.
Touch yourself before seeing him
What he is doing is won’t he is maybe just a good guy.
There’s a time and place for both. Sometimes you want to dine and enjoy each other’s company first. Other times you want to jump on him. He won’t see you differently I assure you.
Just go get did girl. “I’m really enjoying our time together, to the point I’d like a little more action. In an ideal world, how often do you like to have sex in a week?”
When I was 22 you would have need to hit me over the head to get the point across. Just tell him what you want and only HE can take care of it.