So yeah, kinda freaking out. A friend hit me up today saying they saw my gf on Tinder. He didn’t swipe or anything, but said the photos and name looked exactly like her. He had only just met her once so he wasn’t quite sure and I didn’t want to sound like a dumbass by pressing on. I trust her, but I’m now also a little concerned. Can I check somehow?
A friend just told me they saw my GF on Tinder. How do I verify?
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Takes photos of the profile so you can see 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
I was in your shoes last year. I didn’t want to go full detective, but I also needed clarity. I ended up using a site called CheatEye. it lets you search Tinder profiles using a name, photo, and location. Saw my gf was active, her profile was all about her being single. We’d been together for a year and all this while she was playing me.
I am not sure how you can check. I will caution you that you have to be smart and sure how you do it because I know dating apps sometimes use deactivated accounts (especially women’s) to circulate profiles to lure in “new matches” although they are not active.
There is a chance she is on Tinder though. I hope not!
Ask your girlfriend calmly about it, mentioning your friend’s observation to get her side of the story. Check her Tinder profile discreetly if needed, but avoid jumping to conclusions until you talk.
It depends if you live in a very populated area, but on Tinder, you can set a maximum distance that a person can be from you. If you grab your friends phone and use their account at your place (or somewhere near your gf), you can set the max distance very low so you see only the people nearest around. start swiping, and eventually, hers should come up.
If your friend swiped left on her recently it may not show up though, give it maybe a week before her profile goes back in the queue.
Source: I had my distance set to 5km and saw repeat profiles in 50% of my swipes.
Why didn’t he take screenshots?
He could have it wrong cause people, especially guys, are bad eye witnesses and a lot of time have face blindness. He could be a troublemaker making it up for some twisted reason. Or someone could be catfishing and using her pictures.
People are saying to talk to her but why would she admit it if it’s true? Do you have access to her phone? There’s an app that everyone has been using to find out if their partners have dating profiles, you could look into that.
You could set up a Tinder profile and try to match with her. That’s a lot of work and it’s exhausting to have to live like that but I wouldn’t be able to relax until I found out what was going on. Trust is so fragile, even when something we’re told or an idea that gets into our heads, isn’t true, it’s hard to get it out.
Ask him to try to date her 😂, it’s the only thing you can do to make sure he is not lying . And you will see what your GF will do . By the way why he didn’t send you her profile picture?
Let him send screenshots or make a fake profile of your own and go hunting
Why didn’t he take a screenshot or photo from another cell phone to show you?
Why don’t you look for her yourself, fake account
Who tells a friend they saw their gf on tinder without taking and sending screenshots? Makes no sense
Install Tinder yourself and start swiping
i’d try having an honest convo with her first before jumping to conclusions. if you’re still unsure, you could ask your friend for a screenshot just to calmly bring it up later.
Shitty friend to not take screenshots.
Ask your GF this question: “Hey my friend said he saw you on Tinder, is that true?”
Honestly people do make fake dating accounts – it’s possible someone is using your girlfriend’s pictures without her knowledge.
Is there something off in the relationship that is causing a lack of trust? It seems a little shady how the friend saw something but didn’t give any proof – he may be trying to start shit between you for some reason.
Without proof you have to choose who to believe. Get proof or move on.
Tell your girl “I found out that you’re still on tinder”and see how she responds 🤷♂️
Without proof you’re just asking for a fight. Show the guy how to screenshot this should be obvious lol..
Create a fake tinder, look her up & take screenshots. Next hit on her and see if she responds.
What’s Tinder?
You don’t.
Instead you ask yourself some simple questions
If you were on Tinder and saw your friend’s girlfriend, would you screenshot the profile and send it to him or would you just expect him to blindly trust you?
How good is this friend?
Does he have an ulterior motive to cause problems in your relationship?
So you can go full detective and download Tinder and search for her. Then when your girlfriend sees you downloaded Tinder you can say “I only downloaded it so I could see if you were cheating” because that is a plausible explanation she will believe.
If you have reason to believe your girlfriend is actually cheating or to distrust her, just end the relationship for your mental health. Obsessing over whether or not you can trust her isn’t good for your mental health.
If she is going to cheat, she is going to cheat. Nothing you do is going to prevent her. If she really is the type of person that you believe will cheat, then why are you with her?
Your friend is either a moron or is lying to you.
Pick one.
I won’t associate with liars or morons personally.
get your own tinder, sit next to her, and match with her.
Make a tinder account and check yourself. If you set your proximity to 1 mile, and you’re next to her, she will be one of the few/only people that pop up.
Check her phone. Or atleast ask to see her phone, her reaction will tell you everything
confront your girl and try checking her phone . If she doesnt let you, then its probably true.
Gonna play devils advocate… maybe it’s all her info and pics that someone stole off another social to catfish guys. I’ve seen my pics on here before that I never posted
The lack of screenshots is super telling. He’s either scheming or just trying to start drama. I’d mention it to your girlfriend in a way where she knows you don’t think it’s true and just evaluate from there. Tbh I’d just take everything that friend says with a grain of salt from now on. Who would care enough to reach out about it but not take any screenshots??
Ask her
Ask your friend to get a screenshot. If that doesn’t work then
https://www.cheateye.ai/
Use the link above. If it can’t find her profile then create one and set the distance to the minimum. Still no luck then check her phone.
If all that fails then apologize and let her know why you did all this.
Look you didn’t suddenly snoop because you thought she was shady. You were given specific information and there’s no way you can just ignore it. If my partner was given that information I’d expect them to get to the bottom of it. In fact I’d insist they do because I wouldn’t want lingering doubt. We have open phone policy so it wouldn’t even be an issue.
No screenshots? Either he’s an idiot or making it up cause he wants to ‘shoot his shot’ with her
Download tinder and when logging in type in her phone number or her email.
I saw my friends WIFE on a dating app. I sent him a screenshot and just said something along the lines of “hey bro- saw this. just thought you should know.” He just text me back saying that he already knew about it
She will come back into his feed to swipe again eventually. Tell him to screenshot it our show you next time 🤦. He could be starting drama or mistaken
You get on tinder and match her! Or at least get the details.
It’s fake. True friend will match with her, date, had sex and then will give evidence to you (video, photo, pregnancy test) so you would not think that maybe it’s mistake and what to do.
why isn’t he verifying
make a tinder account and match with her.
My profile stayed up on Tinder long after I was no longer active or even paid up.
Easy way to find out, check to see if she has tinder on her phone or computer. Dating apps on someones phone or computer, espacially if installed dates are after you are together is sure signs she is checking out other prospects. Doesnt mean shes posted but is leaning to alternative boyfreind or one night stands
Bro. Ditch that hooah