I have a 6 months relationship with my boyfriend, we dont hang out as much because we pretty much live far away from each other. Thing is, there’s this súper attractive girl that’s interested in him, she’s his little sister bff so they grew up in the same hometown. I don’t like her. She asked him out and he went out with her behind my back, when he told me he went out with a group of friends. I knew something was off when he only posted stories where he appeared alone, and only one phone was showing on the table. Anyway, a few days after a TikTok from this girl pops in my fyp, the cop trend where they’re playing to catch each other. My heart dropped. I called him out, insulted him, and said we were done. He called and texted non stop until I forgave him, he tried all excuses, he said nothing happened between them and that they were only hanging out as friends but didn’t tell me because he didn’t want me to get the wrong idea or overreact. I was hurt by the lie itself, and that they went to a place I was insisting him to go to for a while, but he rarely could since he was out of money. Anyway, I see him posting stories at clubs, and ofc I knew he was very likely to be out there being a hoe, but didn’t care enough to even imagine. I took his call by the fourth day, he continually chased me while crying so I let him talk. I took him back, after talking things out again. I decide to sleep when he calls again and confesses to me sobbing that he slept with 6 women during those 4 days we were split. I broke down here and crashed out. He menaced me to kill me if I ever split up with him again. I said I was disgusted. Thing is he begged and begged, and I said that he had to start over and regain my forgiveness somehow, but I could ever see him the same way again. Now we’re somewhat back talking, but whenever he posts, I only feel like something’s so dirty rn, although yes ofc I’m attached, because I do have problems of letting him go for real. I don’t know what to do. He said it doesn’t count as cheating because I broke up with him. But goddam 4 fucking days and he fucked 6 women??? He was begging and crying to me before and after fucking each girl??? Honestly I’m writing this down because I feel like I’m so detached from reality and from my feelings right now. This all sounds like someone else’s story for me, like it’s not mine, I can’t feel a thing rn. Opinions?
Does it count as cheating??
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Run and don’t look back. You can do much better, and it’ll do you some good to distance yourself. Date yourself for a while and I promise you’ll look back and think “wtf was I even thinking?💀”
Don’t let this clown ruin you!
Darling, being completely honest with you, he’s not going to respect you because you don’t respect yourself. He will continue to lie and betray your trust because you allow him to
6 girls in 4 days is a lie. He has slept with 6 girls during your relationship (or more). Get a better man. You deserve better.
He had to lie about it. Its cheating.
This whole thing Is a GIANT Red flag from start to finish. Run fast and far from him and never look back.
It May not be technically cheating but 6 girls in 4 days??? When he supposedly should have been disperate for you? I don’t think so. Dump his ass with no regrets, you’re dodging a bullet
First I want to say congratulations for doing what’s right for you and your future, unfortunately you ran into one of those guys that don’t ever seem to grow up. Now you can sit back and just laugh when you hear what he’s up to, embarrassing isn’t it? Good thing you don’t have any connection with his name anymore! Been there done that, a great guy is coming your way hon
hopefully you can get this toxic parasite out of your life and do it fast. the tears and begging were performative and not genuine, his actions do all the speaking for him.
Firstly, threatening to kill you if you ever break up with him again is absolutely atrocious and that alone should be enough for you to get out of that mess before it becomes significantly worse (Trust me, it will)
Secondly, if someone sleeps with one person within days of breaking up, it’s pretty damning evidence that you don’t mean much to them but to do it six times within four days? That should be completely unforgivable and I’m not entirely sure why you’re even entertaining the idea of being in his life. I know you’re attached and there are feelings involved but, surely you deserve more than someone like him?
Last but not least, if he was willing to go behind your back to be with her, knowing damn well that you don’t like her, then essentially groveling to get you back whilst simultaneously sleeping around as though it doesn’t mean a damn thing, then what else does he hide from you, and does he actually love you, care for you or respect you? Because I don’t see any way in which he does.
With that said, you really should break up with him because I guarantee it, you’d be significantly better off. Just block him and if he continues to threaten you, contact the authorities or tell his friends/family about it.
Good luck 🙂
I’m no professional but I’d say it’s technically not cheating but cuts just as deep. Although coming from my perspective as a man that I can see myself in his shoes with his bff’s little sister when it comes to lying to prevent a greater reaction if I were still in highschool or something but nowadays it’s always best to be straight with each other because trust is no different from a vase that cracks with every lie or act of betrayal. There really isn’t any justification for his choice to sleep with 6 other women within that short time of your departure. I can understand if he really felt like he lost you and did that to cope since he didn’t expect a response but at the end of the day if I lost my girl I wouldn’t be able to look at another girl with interest. I’d say your reaction is justified and honestly would suggest letting him go since it seems like he’s still in that “adventurous” phase but that’s way easier said than done at face value since I know nothing about you guys but at the end of the day it’s your call. Just remember that you do deserve something better than that if you seek something serious and that time does heal all wounds and that even if you don’t feel whole sometimes someone else could help you recover distrust if you feel that way but not just anyone and preferably someone close by. Like I said, it’s your call and just do what you feel is best for your well being
I don’t believe he slept with 6 women in four days. More than likely, he is saying this as a way to play on your insecurities. Women have a tendency to feel more drawn to a person after they see that they are “replaceable.” It provokes insecurity and encourages some to seek out the person they broke up with out of self-validation
And no, it’s not cheating if you dumped him, nor is making a tik-tok cheating. However, I don’t believe he is in the state to be in a relationship based off of how you described this. I believe he needs to work on himself. 6 months is too little time for these deep of issues