I’m a 19F and my boyfriend 18M have been in a relationship for 4 years. Going on to 5 in December. We lived in our own apartment and are very comfortable with each other. Over past year or so (When we started living together in his parents home) I noticed how little my boyfriend would actually brush his teeth. I am a very heavy dental hygiene is important kinda person, I brush three times a day, sometimes more if needed and I wear my retainers every single night without fail. I always mention it to him slightly that I feel gross when my teeth aren’t brushed at night. I do that in the hopes that it encourages him to brush his teeth with me. I sometimes have to ask him if he can brush them if we are going to be intimate and at the end of the night. Growing up, I did not take well care of my teeth and got severe gingivitis from lack of brushing. I made it a real important habit of taking well care of my teeth since I did eventually get braces. Anyways, I’m not proud to admit it but I do sometimes check the toothbrush at night or in the morning to see if it’s getting used. It’s not. I love him so much but due to the lack of brushing his mouth does smell. It makes me not want to kiss him and it really grosses me out if we are trying to be intimate. I noticed that he has began to develop pretty bad gingivitis. What should I do? Do I tell him or not? How should I explain it to him without making him embarrassed? Please help!
My Boyfriends Dental Hygiene Is Pretty Bad. Idk how to talk to him about it.
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Hey, been there, done that. Communication is key, no beating around the bush here. It’s better to hurt his ego now than end up losing teeth later, trust me, cavity pain is no joke. So, straight up be like “babe, please fix your dental hygiene for us, your breath ain’t really working miracles rn.” It’s tricky, but remember it’s for his own good. He might take it hard at first but he’ll thank you later. Good luck.
just give him a gentle reminder, offer to brush together. as a person with adhd i don’t get offended when my bf tells me it’s time for the teeth to be hit with that brush because i honestly forget and get hyper fixated on stupid shit
You can tell him but at the end of the day it’s a decision he has to make by himself, sometimes people like that never change especially if they don’t want to. You’re not his mom. And him, knowing that your big on dental health care and he decides not to brush is a big red flag 👀
If you can’t do it let the dental hygienist at a dental office rip him a new one, then they will explain proper hygiene. If you fail to convey it in a way he understands, let the professionals do it for you lol
Don’t kiss him on the mouth, if he asks why, tell him his breath stinks.
Tell him there’s one way to improve his breath and that’s with a tablespoon of dog poo
Yes, you need to tell him, gently but clearly. This isn’t just about bad breath; it’s a health issue and it’s affecting your intimacy