I (19f) haven’t been able to have a crush or romantic feelings for anyone, and before yall start saying I need to move on first! I have moved on I am very happy single. I didn’t have a good experience with my ex who was my 1st ever boyfriend…he cheated constantly and now that I look back…it wasn’t even a proper relationship, we were just two lonely teenagers who were trying to deal with our shi through that relationship. I don’t even think about it anymore and I don’t regret or resent anyone anymore, we were kids and it literally doesn’t matter anymore.
BUT the issue is I tried getting to know other people and even taking & texting but there were never feelings like nothing, I didn’t feel the tingly thing which we feel. I feel like maybe I just haven’t met the right person but sometimes I really just wanna try getting into a relationship but it’d be unfair for the other person so I don’t get involved.
I am not trying to sound arrogant but I am attractive I’ve always been pretty so it’s pretty normal to get hit on all the time and people trying to get in my circle so trust me I REALLY did try it’s not like I didn’t have any options or opportunities, I DId but I just didn’t click with anyone there were some really sweet and genuine people who asked me out and I really would love a person like that but i couldn’t do it.
What’s wrong with me ? What do I do ?
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Focus on building connections without pressure. Sometimes feelings develop unexpectedly when you least expect them.
Nothings wrong with you. Healing is not always about pain its also about rediscovering what you want. If you are not feeling it yet, thats okay. The right connection will come when it’s real not forced
Ok, first: PLEASE edit that and add some paragraphs and periods. It’s difficukt to read a solid wall of text and a single run-on sentence.
Now. For your love life: The way to do this is MEET PEOPLE. Use every way you can think of to do this.
Join singles groups
If you are in school, do extracurriculars and join student orgs
Join social groups and clubs. Every city has some that will match your interests, from reading groups to sports to fine dining
Use dating apps
Play a sport
Join a gym
Take up new hobbies and hang out where those people do
Take a class in something, like dance or cooking. You will work in groups with other students, plus they often have socials. These skills will also enhance your social life.
Make the rounds of the nightlife, pick a favorite club and get to know the regulars
Have a party for your new friends and the people you are meeting. Encourage your guests to bring someone with them, so you can meet more!people. Double your reach!
You will make friends and hopefully find a love interest. Let your new pals know you’re on the hunt for love. They have siblings, cousins and friends who want to meet a nice partner.
Give up that “soulmate” shit. People are NOT perfect and there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Certainly there is not just 1 person you can be happy with. There are literally thousands of potential matches out there. Go get out there and find one!
This should get you started. Good luck, best wishes, and I mean that. Good health, long life and much happiness to you!
You’re not broken you’re just selective with your energy and that’s a superpower not a flaw. Forcing feelings leads to regret so trust that the right connection will spark naturally when someone actually meets your emotional standard.
This sounds insane but stop searching for it just live your life and it will happen