We’re both 18 and have been together for over 7 years. Ever since, there has been no day that would pass without a call from her. She would always tell me about her day, and I love listening to her stories. Although, she would always want me to tell her about mine, but having a short-term memory really sucks. When I tell her about my day, it feels like the air has changed and I always feel like I’m telling her nonsense.
Now, it’s been 5 days since I told her that sometimes I might not be in the mood for calls and need some “me time”. Cause I have days that, when I woke up I just feel so tired and so down and days that wear me out so much that I don’t even want to talk to someone. But she didn’t like it at first, as she doesn’t want to get any kinds of rejection, especially from me. So she said that she wouldn’t call anymore. She said she’s okay about it and now there is this pinch on my chest ever since I told her about it, every day I feel guilty, I feel like I removed something from our relationship that binds us stronger and together.
Now our text messages feel so dry, and she’s talking to me like professionally, she always have perfect punctuation, capitalization and things like that, she doesn’t text me that way unless we’re not okay. I really am overthinking and feeling guilty that makes me stay up late night.
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Cutting her calls without warmth risks breaking your bond. Face the guilt and reassure her you are still there even if quieter.
Oh the joys of having the same partner from 11-18. Those are very difficult relationships to get out of and often have A LOT of issues because of that. Youve grown uo together through very important stages of life.
She’s immature. “Can’t take any form of rejection” tough shit, life is full of rejections, you ser a boundary and shes respecting it but she’s taking it further, probablt as a way to “punish” you so you feel bad.
Instead of LIMITING calls like you asked nad knowing that some days you won’t want to call, she’s what? Stopped them entirely and is speaking to you differently as a whole? Does she speak differently in person too? Or is this an online relationship?
Telling your girlfriend you don’t want to hear from her every day was the beginning of the end of your relationship, and it should be the end. If you loved her, you’d want to hear from her. She’s now in the process of pulling away from you. Stop wasting her time, so she can be with someone who does love her.
I don’t know if maybe you could’ve said it nicer but your feelings are valid, you need time to miss your partner. Just let her know you lover her, there’s nothing wrong but you guys need time to miss eachother lol
If she’s gonna act out every time you set a boundary that’s kind of a red flag. Your best option is to reassure her that you care about her, you’ve just been needing the time to your self. Still flipping a switch like that because of a simple request is weird and manipulative.
Bro you fucked up at another level . She loves you too much that she’s still with you. Hold her leg and ask for forgiveness