My ex (34m) reached out after blocking me (29f) for a few weeks (because I didn’t listen to him trying to share his hurts about how I behaved when he broke up with me), with a notebook entry about negative thoughts and anxiety. He has sent random messages every so often like a picture of the beach, a self help reel, but we just get into fights and the cycle starts again.
This time, I replied with ‘please don’t contact me again, go and talk to one of your other women when you need validation’. But I regret it.
Basically he broke up with me because of his ‘mental health’ struggles, left his work, lost his life and all of this stuff, but in a fight a month ago told me I am angry that he has other girls in his life and then a huge text about other things. I don’t k now if it’s because I have been so horrible and cruel via text the last few months that he said that out of spite.
Is it worth going back on my word and saying sorry or being more clear as per my last text to him? and I don’t want to loose him.
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Chasing him now will only drag you back into the same storm you’ve been drowning in. Let the waters calm before you reach out and apologize with grace later when you can speak from clarity instead of fear or you’ll hand him the power to hurt you again.
Stop talking to this person, you guys don’t appear capable of having a healthy relationship with each other
This situation sounds really concerning. Have you thought about talking to her about it?
Why don’t you want to lose him? Will you miss the fights? Love, by itself, isn’t enough to make a relationship work.
Don’t regret it. His behaviour is toxic. You are not required to listen to his criticism about how you behaved when he dumped you. Surely you don’t intend getting back together with him? JFC have some self-respect. If you’re not, then who cares what the message said. It probably wasn’t your finest moment but oh well.
Block him and move on. You don’t go visit your trash after you put it in the bin…