I’ve been single for quite a while now, and somewhere along the way… well, as the title says, I started doing OnlyFans.
Now I’m feeling ready to get back into dating, but I also don’t want to hide what I do… honesty matters to me.
My question is: in your experience, is this something most people see as a dealbreaker? Or is it all about finding the right person who’s cool with it?
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depends on the person and what kinda relationship ur expecting
Honestly, for me, a heeeaap of guys say they wish they could date an OF creator. Just whether or not you want to date a guy whose cool with it.
Everyone is different so some people will not care, some will like it, and some people will not like it. I think it depends on what your intentions are in dating if you’re looking for a long term relationship or a spouse it might be detrimental to that effort.
NGL I had a situationship with someone with an OF and I was going to ask if we could make content together 😮💨. But obviously depends on the person you’re dating
I have asked this question to so many people. While most of them enjoy looking at content, I normally get a resounding no when I ask if they would date a content creator. When I ask why, the response is normally that they would be jealous and don’t want to share their partner.
Depends on the guy, to be honest. Some guys will find it a turn on, some will be turned off. Also be careful. Some guys will see this as a way to get their kinks (or think it’s a way). Be honest about it. It’s not something you want to surprise a guy with.
I think it’s all about finding the right person for you. Personally, if I met a guy and we clicked on the same level, it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me if he was an OF creator.
Strong possibility. Any good man with strong values will probably reject you. Ideally any good man doesn’t want the future mother of his kids to be a pornstar.
Most people will care. Some will pretend they don’t until they catch feelings, then suddenly have a moral crisis. Others will fetishize it. A small few genuinely won’t give a shit. The faster you weed out the first two groups, the sooner you’ll find the third.
Depends, I personally don’t mind. But I know many guys who would.
What you do for a living doesn’t generally define who you are, and the right person should be more than cool with it. There are people who would love that you’re an OnlyFans creator.
Then there is the camp who would have an issue with it for a variety of reasons. No clue which side is the most.
Depends. Do the person sees you as a porn star?
I’m sure it depends on which sort of OF you run. If I was the datee I wouldn’t have a problem with it except the answering messages in a sexy way. The key is just being really transparent with who you intend to date.
Sadly yeah. There are a few people who would be ok with it but loads of people are dramatic and can’t get over it
Honestly, probably, to some people. But at the same time, this reminds me of a quote:
People that matter dont mind, and people that mind dont matter.
Yes
I wouldn’t care if it was solo content. Anymore more and it’s a hard no for me
Like most aspects of interpersonal relationships, this is highly dependent on the person you intend on dating. Personally speaking, I wouldn’t date an Onlyfans content creator.
To explain my thought process behind it: I find Onlyfans to be in violation for one of the three aspects of love that I look for when engaging in a partner – commitment. I have no intention on having thousands upon thousands of strangers viewing someone I care deeply for in a manner reserved for those closest to you. I was raised to hold commitment and intimacy in exceedingly high regard when looking for a partner, and trading that intimacy for the empty lust of strangers whilst trying to cultivate the intimate closeness and trust that comes with love just doesn’t sit right with me. I’ll always know that someone out there sees my partner just as much as I do, that what we have isn’t anything unique because what differentiates me from one of her patrons? The fact that I’m physically close with her? It would feel empty, hollow, fatuous.
However, I am cognizant enough to realize that this isn’t the case for everyone. Some people are totally alright with it, and more power to them. As said above, it is exceedingly dependent on the demographic of partner you’re looking for. Just know that the engagement of Onlyfans content will attract a certain demographic no doubt, and whether that demographic overlaps with the type of other you wish for is all based on your preferences.
ehhhh i mean imagine your boyfriend starts sending his nudes to a random lady that pays him… that’s essentially what you do so… personally i would be pretty uncomfortable which kinda sucks at least in my relationship because my girlfriend is by all standards very very attractive and would probably make a killing on OF but nah I don’t think it would do good things for my mental health.
I’ve read online that men seem to take against the idea of dating porn stars or ex-hookers.
Some people marry the hookers they have used but that doesn’t seem to work out as I saw with my friend. She was a prostitute and she married one of her clients. They divorced in the end but whenever they’d argue he’d bring up her past in an insulting way.
Men seem to be unable to realise that hookers would not exist if they, the men, didn’t create the demand yet at the same time men want to be married to saints, or younger versions of their mothers in terms of principles, not ex-whores.
It’s how the world is.
The right partner will respect your work and see you beyond the platform
I think it’s not a problem/barrier that you had done it but stopped but I can see it being a problem with if you continue with it during the relationship.
I think it’s fair to say you would like stability in your life and so would your future partner and kids. Everyone is entitled to make a mistake (some would argue this isn’t a mistake). This economy is brutal to anyone who isn’t born into wealth.
I think men asses risk and would probably see other men as a threat if you still had the account running. You need to make your peace with it and close it off once you are ready to find a stable relationship and settle down as awful as the wages are out there they provide societal stability which sounds really awful to say. There is no stigma attached to getting minimum wage and not getting by but there is a stigma to selling sex and living financially more comfortably short term (it’s not a long-term solution).
See as an opportunity to use that money to invest in studying or a career that is your dream. Maybe set up a mini business/be self-employed then you’re not killing your dreams in an office job but fulfilling them in a more sustainable way.
Like anything else, some people will be cool with it. Others not.
Personally, I wouldn’t be comfortable with a serious partner who was flirting with others regularly. Which seems like it would almost definitely be a mild description of what you do for work.
What I’d honestly be worried about more is people not thinking you are honest about what you want. There are a lot of scammers out there who will do things like match on a dating app, start a conversation, get the person talking, and then say that they have an OF they want you to sign up for.
Wouldn’t give a shit
It will matter, but if you want to find the one for you it won’t. There’s someone that will see you for you, see past your online presence. But be prepared for that to take a while.
Be upfront with the people you meet, Set your boundaries when comfortable.
Me personally I would mind. It might not be a dealbreaker depending on what they do specifically
No guys going to be cool with it like no woman would be cool with it if the roles were reversed you like a lot of people have done only fans and now’s it’s online it’s there forever I belive in the future a lot of kids are going to get bullied at school due to parents doing only fans
So good luck maybe you will find someone maybe you won’t
probably a deal breaker, definitely a deal breaker if there are other dudes on there.
Ask yourself, would you even want to date a guy who was cool with it?
Probably not,
Most good men won’t be happy with it. Plenty of fuck bois will want to join. You’re going to have your hands full trying to figure out who actually wants to be with you and who just wants to fuck. Figure out what you want from a relationship then seriously vet guys. There are good men that will be okay with it but discussing values and boundaries and respecting those will be necessary for any long term commitment. This is one reason most onlyfans models suffer from depression, most men that comes into their life just sees them as a sex object rather than a partner. So it leads to a life of feeling lonely even in a relationship. Just be careful with the men you choose to give a chance and start with friendships first get to know someone.
Yes most people will care. You made this bed so sleep in it. Good luck.
What’s your handle?
Yes
There’s no “or” here, the answer to both of those questions is yes
Alot of men will def care,that being said there are guys who might be cool with it,but keep in mind that those same kinda guys might also be pretty loose with other matters.
Some will not be cool with it. Some will pretend to be, and then you’ll find out later that they are not cool with it. And there is a small group who genuinely doesn’t give a shit.
Yes.
I’ve matched with OF creator’s before. They were upfront about it. I couldn’t tell if they wanted to date or were using it to promote themselves
Yes definitely.
Never scared me off. My ex fiance worked in the “industry” and never cheated, was faithful and empathetic. She had the divine curse, like me of being born with the Irish curse. we didn’t choose alcohol. Needless to say, I was sober, she relapsed for the umpteenth time, and I had enough. It’s not what people do, that i judge them on. It’s their personality and how they are as a general human. That’s me though, an I dont think you will find this common among men. The reason for this is a ton 9f men, are actually insecure little boys, dressed up as men.
I mean yes, will it scare potential dates. Certainly. So you have to find someone that is okay with that, and doesn’t have societal moral values the typically align with most of the rest of society.
My wife was stripper before we met, its absolutely no problem for me, people are puritans now like it was fuckin 19th century again wtf?
Yes
A number of men, maybe some, maybe most, maybe not a lot, but there will be men that will day this falls outside of their standards. It just depends on that person.
I wouldn’t date someone who has done any type of sex work. I did it before, and I realized it caused a block in my ability to respect her so I learned that is a no for me.