I truly need to know if I’m being a nutty neighbor or this person is rude. My (owned) home splits a lot with another (that one is a rental 🙄 which has a fenced in back yard) that is right behind me with a small strip of yard in between us that is mine. I just planted a bunch of baby trees on my side of the property line for some sense of division. For weeks, this tenant let their dogs out the door unleashed and they run directly to my back yard and peed on my baby trees and they’re now turning black/brown. Additionally, I found 4 piles of 💩 far into my yard.
After setting up my camera to watch the area, I noticed it happening daily so I wrote a note asking them to please stop letting their dogs relieve themselves on my new plants/leaving poo in the yard & taped it to their door. Didnt say a word, but dogs did stop for a while (it has happened a few more times since).
Now, they walk them down the driveway to get to the road but on the way lets them pee & jump all over the garden bed & bushes that are right up against my front window AND also goes across the driveway to my other neighbors yard who also has brand new baby trees, and they pee right on them. It’s gotten to the point my neighbor and I put (small but ugly) garden fencing around his trees & my trees in the back. If it falls over or we remove it, this person lets the dogs go and immediately do it again.
I’m not trying to be a total dick of a neighbor, but you have a fenced in yard, and can clearly take your dogs on their walk without bringing them onto our property & relieving themselves on brand new landscaping that’s now causing them to die. My partner thinks I’m overreacting. Am I/my other neighbor the asshole for having to constantly ask he stop doing this?
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I truly need to know if I’m being a nutty neighbor or this guy is rude. My home splits a lot with another (it’s a rental 🙄) and has a fenced in back yard, that is right behind me with a small strip of yard in between us that is mine. I just planted 5 baby trees on my side of the property line for some sense of division. For weeks, this guy let his dogs out the door unleashed and they run directly to my back yard and pee on my baby trees causing them to now turn black/brown. Additionally, I found 4 piles of 💩 far into my yard.
After setting up my camera to watch the area, I noticed it happening daily so I wrote a note asking them to please stop letting their dogs relieve themselves on my new plants/leaving poo in the yard & taped it to their door. Didnt say a word, but dogs did stop for a while (it has happened a few more times since).
Now, he walks them down the driveway to get to the road but on the way lets them pee & jump all over the bushes that are right up against my front window AND also goes across the driveway to my other neighbors yard who also has brand new baby trees, and they pee on them. It’s gotten to the point my neighbor and I put (small but ugly) garden fencing around his trees & my trees in the back. If it falls over or we remove it, this guy lets his dogs go and immediately do it again.
I’m not trying to be a total dick of a neighbor, but you have a fenced in yard, and can clearly take your dogs on their walk without bringing them onto our property & constantly relieving themselves on brand new landscaping clearly causing them to die. Am I/my other neighbor the asshole for having to constantly ask he stop doing this?
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NTA
Your neighbor is a lazy piece of work.
And your partner? Who thinks you’re overreacting? Allow that person to clean up the dog waste.
NTA. Your neighbor is a dick.
You could try something called Liquid Fence, or Natures Mace… Maybe an ultrasonic device or two… Motion activated sprinklers could also work well. You could try natural remedies like vinegar, or cayenne pepper.
NTA. Can you spray your side of the property with diluted Tabasco sauce, or spicier? Or sprinkle hot pepper flakes. They will learn to avoid the area.
You could also plant hot peppers in strategic locations.
INFO: Have you contacted your landlord with the video evidence to file a formal complaint that your neighbor/his pet is trespassing on your part of the property?
NTA have you informed the landlord?
Yeah definitly NTA,
I thought it was common courtesy to pick up after your dog and ya know…NOT TRESPASS
NTA. Dog poop is a precious commodity, please collect it and then return it to your neighbour who’s probably missing it desperately. Preferably on their front doorstep. Also wet poop is the most valuable, so after you drop their property back to them spray it with a squirty bottle to maximise its value.
Just call animal control, they’ve shown that they can’t or won’t, control their animals. If they continue to poop in your yard, just take a shovel and flip it back in their yard. Not much you can do about the peeing though. NTA.
Fling it back to where it belongs.
NTA I had a neighbor who did this. She let her dog do his business anywhere and there were a lot of angry neighbors, including me. I called animal control anonymously and complained. They came out and talked to her and she stopped.
NTA. If this property is a rental, do you know the homeowner? I would reach out to the landlord and tell them what’s happening. If you have video footage from your camera, I would tell the landlord you’d be happy to provide it to them but that you need your private property to be respected and left alone.
NTA
Pick the dog waste products up and put it in their mailbox. 🙂
“Returning your property”
Stop trying to be nice. Tell them to stop and if it happens again you’ll be calling animal control and the police. Dogs are supposed to be on a leash.
NTA My neighbor refused to keep his dog from pooping and peeing on my lawn. One day when I saw him outside, I took a Costco-sized carton of cayenne and made a big show of sprinkling it all over my landscape and told him it was poison. That dog never came onto my yard again.
I won a war with a weird nasty crazy cat lady neighbor. I Overpowered all of her catnip lures and extracts she would put in my yard at night with powdered cayenne pepper and jalapeno pepper flakes. Went to dollar general and bought everything they had of the two, dirt cheap, natural and effective. Even after it rains because of the oils on the pepper seeds. I sprinkled tons and tons of it around my yard and never seen any of her 29 cats again, they didn’t piss, shit or spray in my yard ever again. She ended up doing the same thing to the neighbors on the other side so I educated them on what I was doing and we had her surrounded. Natural, not harmful flawless victory. I kept reapplying the cayenne and pepper flakes like grass seeds, all over my yard like a ninja once a month. Crazy cat lady got evicted and all of her disgusting cat piss belongings went to the curb.
NYA. I’m a lazy dog owner, but even I do better than this. I hope your neighbour stops sucking.
I have heard that if you place a few bottles of colored water around the property it deters dogs from coming around. They say it works IDK
You are NTA. As a dog owner without a yard I’m horrified by this behavior. That person suuuuucks!!
NTA.
First off, dog owners should ALWAYS pick up their dog’s feces. Those who don’t, give all dog owners a bad name. If you have a problem with the pee as well, then you need to put those little “no dogs” signs out.
Second, most cities and townships have a “leash law.” Assuming you have one, your neighbor isn’t allowed to let their dog run free on your property or any public property. So, you could call Animal Control.
It’s not the dog’s fault. They will mark territory everywhere they are allowed to roam.
Intentional damage of another’s property… I wonder how much the fines would be?
NTA. Document, document, document! Your partner is off the wall – how many times to you have to replace the trees and plants before they’ll understand?