I’m talking about those little everyday things that just make your heart feel warm – snacks, text, little details. Not big grand gestures.
If you had a partner who adored you, what’s one small thing they could do that would make you feel instantly loved?
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He should know if I am hungry or not .
A long hug, for no real reason. Just come up and hold me for a while lol.
Surprise me with a box of chocolates or any dessert really
Helping me take my shoes off even though im able to do so myself 🥺
Acts of service. And honestly, I hate even saying it like that because I think it has nothing to do with “serving” your wife to be an equal partner when it comes to house work. Do the dishes, do the cooking, do the laundry. Literally “See A Need, Fill A Need”. That would be a great start.
He’s not a physical touch person but every day when he gets home he give me a big long hug.
He drops off coffee/lunch at work just because he was thinking of me.
My favorite thing is when I get weird and do weird things he has this smile that just melts my heart.
As someone who is rarely understood, it would be words of affirmation, the kind that only someone who truly knows me could give, said at the moment they know I need to hear them.
Smile at me when he’s half awake seeing my cadaver complexion, sleep in my eyes, and puffy face lol.
Or just giving me a 3/4 glass of water and my supplements.
Always being held and kissed. That always makes me feel desired and safe.
“instantly loved” is not a thing in my books but these sort of things would sure feel supportive and caring:
come pick me up from work if it’s been a long day
not be impatient with me, I am literally doing my best
bring me coffee in the morning if they’re up first
Listen, acknowledge and appreciate.
Some good deep pressure massages without asking or making it his idea.
Then a freshly pack bowl when I get home from work.
Maybe run a bath for me too if he’s feeling frisky.
Forehead kisses on my giant, hollow forehead ✈️🥹
A handwritten note.
Send me a random sweet text. It lets me know they are thinking about me and love me.
Everything. He usually wakes up before I do. By the time I get up there is a mug with tea waiting for me to help me wake up. He will txt me for work once to wish me a good day, once to tell me he misses me and one to tell me he can’t wait to see me. (Yes we live together). When he gets home the first thing he does is hug me and give me a kiss. If I’m not feeling well he looks after me and tries to cook me his favorite dish (I still don’t know what it is and it tastes… interesting). If he goes to the store he comes back with my favorite candy. I can just tell that he is always thinking about me. If he is home and we are in different rooms he will check in on me and bring me water and give me a kiss because he missed me even though we were both home. I love that man.
Right now? Take the bins out unasked cos I’m sorting laundry. I would legitimately jump them after for this one small task 😄
Little kind words – not I love you every day, but for example “I saw such and such a thing and I thought of you”, a simple “how are you?” after a difficult day, I’m careful about what I eat but I like to eat something sweet from time to time, so a pastry to share, and the most important thing for me: to be given time. That someone wants to be with me to chat, to take a walk… it’s very simple but for me it would make me feel safe and loved.
I loooove a nice foot rub at the end of the day or if they made a cute little homemade dessert
Consistent communication.
Men that do this really love you. Those that don’t, are taking you for a ride. Learnt this the hard way.
Massage and sweet words 😘
Making my side of the bed for me (we have separate blankets)
I feel most loved when something is done for my benefit only. I have a specific energy drink I like and I’m the only one in the house that likes it. When it gets put in the fridge for me I feel a jolt of love. I often bend to other’s desires for restaurants or whatever day to day choices, so seeing my preferences be taken into account just fills up my cup.
Valuing my opinions in trivial decisions
Listen to me and ask probing questions that show they listen, care, and want to know more
Make me feel good about myself. Validate what’s good and lovely in me, and, for the love of god, please make it about who I am as a person, not about my looks.
I could brag on my husband forever but my favorites are random back scratches, big hugs that make you warm and fuzzy but also weak in the knees, he can pop my back better than most chiropractors, wherever we go he drives, I don’t remember the last time I had to put gas in my car, he handles all maintenance and vehicle repairs and tells me he loves me as well as shows me he loves me. I wish all women could find this kind of love.
I have one and he reads to me every night after giving me a message and it makes me fall asleep before he’s done reading the first page
calling me pet names, always wanting to understand me and makeup when we have an argument, adjusting to.me the way I do to them, being excited to catch up after we haven’t talked for a while, just being excited when we get to spend time together even if we do more days than not
I have one. He gives me a big long hug whenever I’m home from work. Sometimes I’ll also find a random dessert on my desk, unprompted.
Also I love handwritten letters, and we have a joint journal together where we write ‘letters’ for each other. Just in a book haha.
This may be silly, but it’d make me feel very recognized if they had opinions on how I dressed? Like, suggesting particular jewelry that’d match an outfit, or a certain dress when getting ready for a date. In a positive way–not, like “Ugh, the purple top would be better,” but instead “The silver hoops would be stunning with that.”
It’s always been the little things that mean the most to me. I love cold Coke! The colder the better. He will put a bottle in the freezer for me 10-15 before I walk in the door. He also does this thing where if a customer pays him on cash app, he sends it to my cash app to keep. He acts like it’s no big deal…he’ll say “it’s just cash app money..it’s not real”. It’s sweet. I also love how he gets mad if I open a door for myself. Sometimes I’ll act like I’m going to open it and He’ll say “don’t you dare touch that door”. I do this just to hear that sometimes…sssh don’t tell him.
I’ve never tried a plum before so he bought some and all day yesterday he was so excited to have me try a plum. He kept bringing it up and then he said “let me know what time you want to try a plum” who plans a plum?? 😂 I waited 30 min and said ok go get that plum. He ran into the kitchen like a little kid so excited. It was actually pretty good! I’m super picky so he finds so much pleasure in finding new foods that I like. It’s sweet and I feel loved.
Listen to me, show me things that inspires both of us to think, include me in whatever makes them happy.
Just smile at me it doesn’t matter his smile makes my day
I do! One of my favorite things that he does is text me he loves me a lot. Our schedules are opposite right now (he works night shift at a casino and I work 9-5 at a library) and we make a point to say I love you a lot, basically whenever there’s a lull in the convo or before we go to bed or work. It takes a couple seconds and it always makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside even if we don’t talk much during our days.
Sweet kind words, warm hugs and snuggles. So much snuggles.
ETA: and forehead kisses!
His random compliments always make me feel instantly loved.
Forehead kisses.
Bringing me something I like just because they were thinking of me. Remembering details I shared casually. Spontaneous verbal or physical affection. Eye contact with a flirty smile. Wanting my perspective / counsel on things and treating it as valuable.
Doing the little things that make it clear they pay attention. I recently got groceries including a pack of soda and didn’t feel like loading it into the garage fridge when I got home. I mentioned that I’d do it later and went to take a shower, and while I was showering my boyfriend put the soda away. He didn’t have to, but he did so I could have a cold soda with dinner after my shower. That one will stick in my mind for a while, I think.
Bringing me a cup of coffee in the morning while I prop up on pillows to watch the news. It’s the simple things….
My fiancé comes up to me everyday and kind of bounces my natural hair and says “pretty curly hair” and gives me a kiss on the cheek 🙂 it’s such a small gesture but I think it’s so sweet lol
Consistency in all aspects of life. It inspires me and makes me feel secure.