So my bf and i have been together for 2 years, we have our ups and downs but we never break up with each other, We always try to figure things out. Both of us are deeply in love.
My grandfather has passed away recently and I couldn’t go to his funeral due to my internship in another state. I have never felt so down in my life, my bf also did try to console me on the video call since we are in a long distance relationship. I was in my bra and shorts only and was breaking down. My bf “jokingly” said he was in the “mood”, i told him it’s not the time and guess what he said, “Is your deceased grandfather going to stop me?”, I snapped instantly and cut the call. Later he apologized and said he was joking but it was clearly not the time and i find it really disrespectful.
I’ve initiated a no contact with him, blocked him in every platform but my mind is still numb. I love him soo much but the statement he made is a bit of an ick for me. We haven’t contacted each other yet, i miss him but i still cannot forget what he said. Should i break the “no contact” first and properly communicate or should i just move on from him?
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Definitely do not give him a second chance.
2 years is a lot to throw away, but that was hella out of pocket. Not only did he make a dead grandpa joke (which I’m so sorry about btw my condolences) on top of jokingly insinuating forcing himself on you. That’s pretty gross imo.
I’d break no contact and give him the opportunity to truly and deeply apologize. That’s just me though.
Every suggestion and advice is deeply appreciated 🫶🏻
Did not read any of it. Don’t have to. Never, ever give anyone more than once chance.
What he said was really gross, insensitive, and inappropriate. I’m guessing you two are younger? Seeing you as sex object when you are vulnerable and in the depths of emotional despair just seems like he does not view you as a whole person or respect your grief.
I would unblock him and break up with him. That is the mature thing to do here. Write out what you want to say beforehand. It doesn’t have to be dramatic, but you should be clear that you are ending the relationship. You can wish him the best and move on.
If he doesn’t accept the break up or starts harassing you, block him. Remember that “no” is a complete sentence.
Good luck, OP.