I am 19 (F) and my sister is 17 (F), growing up I used to watch the 2003 Disney remake of Freaky Friday ALL THE TIME. So when I heard about the sequel I was so excited like hands through the roof, so was my friend I’ll call E who is also 19. We both agreed to go see it this weekend! I’d let my sister know about me going to the movies and suddenly she began acting a bit more, cold or rude. Whatever you want to call it. This morning I finally decided to ask why, and what she said literally made me so mad I wanted to stub her toe for her istg…anyways she goes “I wanted to see the movie too you know…why couldn’t you have told me so we could all go as a family and just sit away from your friend.” something like that. I.WAS.LIVID. Like OMG, she’s said so many things like this before and even gone through with some of these plans all for the sake of “not being left out” it’s ruined a good 50% of my birthday parties and playdates when I was younger /hangouts in the present day. I was so done with her that, I maybe kinda sorta snapped at her. I said “Buy your own ticket and go another day I don’t always have to include you in stuff for myself and my friends.”
So now my Mom and Dad are pissed and my sister is playing the victim saying she just asked if she could go to movies and I yelled at her. Which isn’t entirely untrue, but I also don’t want to apologize she’s almost 18 and I’ve delt with her crap her whole life. So AITA?
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I am 19 (F) and my sister is 17 (F), growing up I used to watch the 2003 Disney remake of Freaky Friday ALL THE TIME. So when I heard about the sequel I was so excited like hands through the roof, so was my friend I’ll call E who is also 19. We both agreed to go see it this weekend! I’d let my sister know about me going to the movies and suddenly she began acting a bit more, cold or rude. Whatever you want to call it. This morning I finally decided to ask why, and what she said literally made me so mad I wanted to stub her toe for her istg…anyways she goes “I wanted to see the movie too you know…why couldn’t you have told me so we could all go as a family and just sit away from your friend.” something like that. I.WAS.LIVID. Like OMG, she’s said so many things like this before and even gone through with some of these plans all for the sake of “not being left out” it’s ruined a good 50% of my birthday parties and playdates when I was younger /hangouts in the present day. I was so done with her that, I maybe kinda sorta snapped at her. I said “Buy your own ticket and go another day I don’t always have to include you in stuff for myself and my friends.”
So now my Mom and Dad are pissed and my sister is playing the victim saying she just asked if she could go to movies and I yelled at her. Which isn’t entirely untrue, but I also don’t want to apologize she’s almost 18 and I’ve delt with her crap her whole life. So AITA?
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Info: can you explain how previous plans have been “ruined” by including her?
YTA.
That seems a visceral response to such a mundane ask. You literally could have just said no. I don’t get why this evoked thoughts of violence within your head, or why yelling was even needed. It all just sounds so unhinged.
She told you – to sit *away* from your friend? That’s not ‘intruding’ on your plans, that’s straight up undoing them. Your plan was to ‘see movie with friend’. Way different from ‘see movie with family while friend is across the theater.’
NTA, but maybe stop telling her about your plans at all.
Probably both in the wrong, your sister probably just wants to spend time with you and is a bit jealous. Silver lining is that you seem to have a sister that loves you very much.
No need to go livid, pull up your past, and blame her for ruining you life. All you needed to do is tell her that you and your friend wanted to go out to dinner (even if that is not true) and the movie on your own, and leave it at that. If she still wouldn’t let it rest, suggest that she call or text some of her friends, and arrange to go with them.
While I think it’s okay for the sister to express disappointment in not being invited, it is not right for her to try to exclude your friend.
Younger siblings have a tendency to make things about them one of such reasons is why I am sure you were looking forward to a friend event instead of a family one where you have to cater to her as the older sister.
Will say both of your overreactions are childish, but that’s to be expected with your ages.
NTA
I think speaking to her the way you did was a little harsh. You could’ve just said “no”. You’re her big sister after all and if you watched it a lot growing up then I’m sure she did too. That said, I can maybe understand your frustration though I would’ve expected better for your age.
Think I’ve got to go with a slight YTA here. Your reasoning doesn’t seem enough for such an extreme reaction in my opinion
Sounds like your sister has a pattern of inserting herself into your plans, so your frustration is understandable. You could’ve said it calmer, but wanting some one-on-one time with your friend doesn’t make you the bad guy.
Jeez. She wanted to go see it with you. If you grew up watching Freaky Friday, then so did she. Because you’re her big sister. That makes you so angry you want to stub her toe?
I know! Go for Chinese food. Then get in an argument and say, “I wish I had your life!” at the same time.