So we’re on holiday and this morning my brother and sister were watching TV while everyone was getting ready, one of my cousins said something rude about my sister and my brother replied “yeah it’s clear she does use her brain sometimes”. My sister just got up and left the caravan crying, she came back a few minutes later and her eyes were red from crying, I gave her a hug and my mum started yelling at her.
“Oh grow up [sister], get a fuking life your actually a baby wtf is wrong with you”
My sister ran off crying again while my mum said she was being a [r-slur].
Earlier me and my mum were talking about it and my mum said she would of never had that issue with me because I would never react that way to her, I said “yeah no I would of told you to fuk right off instead, there was no need to say all that”
She sent me to my room and said I was grounded 🥲. I understand why my mum was annoyed but I don’t think she should of reacted that way to my sister while she was still clearly upset, my sister knows she isn’t the brightest (bless her 😭) and is very self conscious about it so that’s why she got upset. AITAH?
AITAH for telling my mum if I was in my sisters position I would tell her to “f**k right off”
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Original copy of post’s text by /u/XxXKayIaXxX: So we’re on holiday and this morning my brother and sister were watching TV while everyone was getting ready, one of my cousins said something rude about my sister and my brother replied “yeah it’s clear she does use her brain sometimes”. My sister just got up and left the caravan crying, she came back a few minutes later and her eyes were red from crying, I gave her a hug and my mum started yelling at her.
“Oh grow up [sister], get a fking life your actually a baby wtf is wrong with you”
My sister ran off crying again while my mum said she was being a [r-slur].
Earlier me and my mum were talking about it and my mum said she would of never had that issue with me because I would never react that way to her, I said “yeah no I would of told you to fk right off instead, there was no need to say all that”
She sent me to my room and said I was grounded 🥲. I understand why my mum was annoyed but I don’t think she should of reacted that way to my sister while she was still clearly upset, my sister knows she isn’t the brightest (bless her 😭) and is very self conscious about it so that’s why she got upset. AITAH?
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If your mom acts like a raging bitch to your sister, she shouldn’t be surprised when you respond. NTA, and good for you for sticking up for your sister (kind of; I’m not sure why you felt the need to say that she knows she isn’t the brightest).
Your brother Is, Your mother is for multiple reasons. You are not. Your mother and brother are shattering any self confidence/esteem she might have. Frankly it’s abusive behavior and those being thrown out so casually and defending it shows it’s happened before. Thank you for standing up for your sister.
You’re definitely not the ahole. You stood up for your sister in a moment when she really needed someone on her side that’s what a good sibling does. Your mum’s reaction was really harsh and hurtful, especially using slurs and yelling when your sister was already down. It’s okay to call out unfair treatment, even if it’s from a parent. You showed more emotional maturity than anyone else in that moment.
Your mom is the AH. First for bullying your sister and then for punishing you for standing up for her. CPS would have a few things to say about that. Shalom you’re loved 💔
NTA Your mom attacks your sister because that’s easier than actually being a parent and do something about it.
NTA. Your mom’s reaction was cruel and unnecessary, and you stood up for your sister when no one else would. Getting grounded for having a spine doesn’t make you wrong.
NTA
Keep a copy of this post and show it your mum when your sister is grown and cuts contact with her
Your mom is a c*nt and you should tell her so. And you’re only grounded because you respect her authority. Stop. She’s a narcissistic asshole, ignore her attempts at parenting you. You’re grounded? Nope.
Your mom is abusive to your sister. Thank goodness she has you. NTA
Please keep stocking up for her, you’re her only familial support
Your mom is a c u n t
Ordinarily I’d say that you shouldn’t talk to your mother like that, but you were clearly returning what she said to your sister. It’s good of you to stick up for her. She sure needs it, because if your own mother won’t stick up for you, you end up feeling pretty worthless.
Im not convinced about your sister being not intelligent, Einstein had quirks that others didn’t understand, also people on the autism spectrum can act or respond differently than most, doesn’t mean they lack intelligence. Good for you for standing up for her.
NTA and I kind of have a AITA crush on you for how you handled this! Well done, OP!
Thank you for being so conscious of your sister’s feelings and defending her. It sounds like maybe you are the preferred child or close to your mom? You used your sibling privilege to tell your mom the truth and hopefully hearing it from you will make her reflect on how she’s reacting to your sister.
When your mom comes to talk to you about your “attitude” tell her “I learned how to be a bitch from you” sure it’ll get you grounded more, but she needs to accept the reality she’s a horrible parent and you can tell her that
Assuming sister is a bit slow or misdirected in social responses…. she may need help, AND compassion.
Keep on keeping on. Sis will be a million times better off with you in her corner.
Your mom sounds like a real peach. And a delightful person.
NTA.
Your brother is the golden child, isn’t he? He can say or do no wrong.
Sister is allowed to feel how she feels. She left the room because this wasn’t the 1st time mum had berated her for getting hurt.
Words can hurt. Different bodies = Different experiences.
You sticking up for sister is absolutely amazing!! You two stick together. Please learn about grey rocking mum and brother until you both can get away from them.
They will use and abuse you until you leave them on their own.
Im not saying mums a narcissist (no internet diagnosis here), but what she said to sister and to you…. is not okay. Please team up with your sister and learn how to live with a narcissist (again, I’m not saying mum is one, but the coping skills, will also be life skills) until you’re able to leave. You’ll both get stronger for it. 💜