Hello! I posted this in AskMen but it got flagged. They adviced me to post it in here, so here goes nothing:
I guess I just wanted a little guidance and advice, both from circumcised people and from their partners. As the title says, my boyfriend just got a circumcision as an adult and he’s starting to regret it. Mind, his post-op just started so he’s having the most pain and discomfort right now. He got circumcised for having partial phimosis (only when erect). Other than that I don’t think he experienced any pain besides when being a little too rough. I don’t think either of us knew that there are creams and other ways to make the foreskin more flexible, I don’t even know if he knows this now.
I’m really worried about him because he feels very bad with the operation. He’s told me a couple times that he regrets it and that it felt a bit like peer pressure. His brother is also circumcised and he’s told him that he feels barely anything when having sex. I’m worried about this as well because I don’t want him feeling less than before, both because I don’t want him feeling any less pleasure and because he already took quite a long time to orgasm and sometimes I got really tired because of this.
I’m trying my best to support him and help him with all that he needs but that doesn’t stop me from being worried and regretful as to not having read more about this with him.
I guess I just want to ask, how have you dealt with your circumcisions as adults? Is the feeling that different? Does it get better with time? And how would you like your SOs to treat you in this time? If there’s any SO, I would also like to read how you were there for them!
Thank you 🙂 (English is not my first language, sorry if some things are written in a weird way!)
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I had it done as a baby. I’m glad I did
Circumcision is a tough topic, there are pros and cons. If his procedure is still recent, he likely just needs time to heal and recover. Even so I’ve heard conflicting reports on men who get circumcised in adulthood.
Personally, I would not have if I was uncut but I am somewhat glad my parents opted for it purely for the ease of hygiene and not being as prone to infections or UTIs.
Though I do wonder how much sensation is lost after.
I think the best step is to be patient, listen to his concerns, and let him fully heal. If he still has complications or pain afterwards, it’s a discussion he needs to have with a medical professional.
He will be fine when it all heals.
I had my done in my 30s for the same reason. It took about 8 weeks to heal for adult activities but fully healed about 4/5 months. That was 10 years ago now and have no issues,
It is very painful after the op, and woke up at night a few time in pain due to getting a chubby in my sleep, and that was sore, very very sore, popped a stitch too. But I used warm baths every evening to relax.
I wouldn’t recommend getting this done for cosmetic resaons
But in the end it will be fine.
What’s done is done, it probably did feel like peer pressure, but its a life lesson on not rushing big decisions. His brother isnt helping either but i also doubt what the brother said is true.
Tell him everything will be okay. And that his penis looks nice like this, that he doesn’t need to worry. That everything will be fine after post-surgery.
Bit late to be regretting it, lmao. Why didn’t he just practice pulling the thing back like everyone else does?
I had a boyfriend who was circumcised as a young adult for the same reason. He was happy with the result and I think he was more sensitive since the head had been covered for so long.