I’ve always wanted to become a dad, but my father never did a good job. Needless to say, I’m both terrified and somewhat excited.
I might become a father soon with my girlfriend (30) and I just need some words of wisdom/upliftment.
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I’ve always wanted to become a dad, but my father never did a good job. Needless to say, I’m both terrified and somewhat excited.
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Focus on learning from your past. You can create your own positive legacy.
Dude, first off, congrats on the incoming kiddo! Being a dad ain’t abt being perfect, trust me. The fact that ur worried abt being a good one already makes u better than most. Just love the little tyke wholeheartedly, roll with the punches and learn from your own pop’s mistakes. Yeah, you’ll screw up sometimes (we all do) but remember, it’s all abt growth n love. Keep it real and you’re gonna crush it, man! 🙌👶🍼💪
Take the experience you had with your dad as a lesson and learning point. I am sure you will be a good dad. Give the live and care to your child that your father couldn’t give you. Prove your child with security of that love.
I didn’t have love and care from my mother side. That left me thinking that I wouldn’t be a good mother either, so I never wanted children. But then I ended up having children. Even though I am a single mom now, I provide my children with love i couldn’t have, things I couldn’t have. When you become a parent, the sense of love and care, protections, and providing naturally comes with it.
Good luck with your future child and parenting.
Congratulations, man.
Focus on being present. From the delivery room to changing the dirty diapers. Appreciate and cherish every moment. It will go by faster than you know.
Congratulations!!
You just have to be there for your wife and behave good to her so that you child can say ” my dad really loves my mom” and never raise your voice in front of child to your wife ….
Buy her favorite food these times. If she loves sushi buy a whole big platter for her after delivering the baby….
congrats brother welcome to the club. best advice I ever received was PRACTICAL and thats exactly what i needed. There is a Youtube Series “happiest baby on the block” teaches you how to put your newborn to sleep. It gets you involved early (hero to your partner) and major bonding time with the kid. It kinda started from there and suddenly I felt useful and confident. the rest just kinda came with research and effort but the positive vibes from the first lesson made me excited to learn and do more. just remember your kid and partner just need you to wanna be there and care and so your already a good dad bro keep it up!! nothing is more rewarding GOGOGO!!!!!