I’m 22(f) and I like men I am sure of that. The issue I’m having is then when I want to self pleasure it’s often pictures and videos of women. This has been a conflicting experience because I don’t see myself in a relationship with a women, ever but I can’t deny that they turn me on. Should I confront my sexuality or is this something other women go through or experience?
Are my self pleasuring habits enough to confront my sexuality?
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“Should I confront my sexuality or is this something other women go through or experience?”
What you are experiencing is normal and it happens to men and women alike.
In other words, there is nothing to “confront.”
There are hundreds of really interesting articles authored by all sorts of behavioral experts available online which talk about sexuality and the range of variations of sexuality that all people experience or fantasize about.
Those might give you some insight into your preferences when you self-pleasure.
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“I’m 22(f) and I like men I am sure of that. “
Maybe ur not so sure but its fine. You should do what makes u comfortable rather than restrict yourself(especially on sex issues lol)
Your thing for women could be completely sexual, and that’s totally chill. We’re fucking gorgeous; I don’t blame you a bit. I don’t think there’s any need to confront anything. Just be open with yourself and explore this a little.
The only person who thinks you’re weird for this is you – I can almost guarantee it lol! Theres not a lick of guilt or anything required when exploring your sexuality. Why’s it seemingly so shameful or unnatural to you to enjoy women sexually if I may ask?
Bro, chill. Def not outta the ordinary. Sexuality ain’t a straight road, more like a wavy ocean. Girls an’ guys can def tickle ur fancy. Maybe you’re bi, maybe not, maybe it’s just aesthetic attraction. Just roll with it, no need to put a label on ya’self ASAP. You do you, mate. 👍
You can be romantically attracted to one gender and sexually attracted to another. For instance. Many years ago I had a female friend that was only emotionally attracted to women, but sexually attracted to men. So after a break up (there were many) she’d come over wanting very rough sex and go home. We were buddies and would go out and hang, and depending on her mood go home and bang.
Then one day she met her future wife. So after she got serious with her girl she came over we hugged and said goodbye. So don’t think you have to be one thing or another.
Totally normal tbh. Brains can separate fantasy from real-life preference. You can be straight and still get turned on by women in certain contexts, it doesn’t have to mean a whole sexuality crisis.
girl this is literally me too, i had a talk with my close friends because i was confused the way you are. it’s just that when I’m watching porn i fantasize to be the girl enjoying the pleasure that’s what i concluded with but it can also be the perspectives of others in the comments.
A lot of people have fantasies that don’t match how they date in real life. It’s normal and doesn’t mean you have to label yourself differently unless you want to
It’s normal. When I watched porn sometimes I’d watch gay porn (of two guys) and I’m a women
No confrontation necessary. You like what you like. As long as it’s all legal and you’re not hurting anyone, treat yo’ self.
Labels are overrated.
There are as many shades of sexuality as there are people on Earth, so don’t sweat the definition or labels and just be you. You can be bisexual and only heteroromantic, for example.
You might be bi (especially since you grew up in a community that restricts anything non cis/het), but… how do you respond to women you know? Any crushes? Sexual desire for actual women you see? If not, it seems more likely to just be aesthetic/identification for sexual fantasies (many many straight women don’t find male porn actors much of a turn-on, and identify more readily with other women experiencing pleasure).
Totally normal. If you’re certain you’re straight then straight you are. Our fantasies very rarely reflect our actual desires. I read a fantasy somewhere about a woman who often dreamed of having an encounter with a stranger in the woods. However, her reality was that she would actually – like many of us do generally – find that quite frightening and deeply uncomfortable. The point I’m making is that you can find something sexy and fantasise about it but not actually want it in real life.
i went through this5 or 6 years ago, it goes away. whoever you are emotionally attracted to I would stick with that, sexual attraction is too flimsy and unreliable
All of that having been said, I don’t recommend viewing porn or nude images simply because the vast majority of the people who create the material were horribly abused when young and consuming the material is supporting an industry that profits by exploiting that abuse, but am merely saying that curiosity and even seeking out the images of your same sex isn’t unusual.
Usually men and women like watching same sex orgasming. It’s relatable
Speaking from my personal experience.
I always thought of women beautiful and the porn I watched involved women. So when I was in my late teens and early 20s, the thought was always there that I was probably bi. All my friends assumed i would be to. Even told my mom I thought I was when I was a teen.
But after two sexual experiences with women while experimenting with sexuality, I realized Im straight.. unfortunately. I appreciate other women and their beauty. But sexually and in a relationship, i just want a man.
Imo, time will tell, but it’s not something to lose sleep over.
To be fair, women are far more pleasant to look at. But what do I know, I’m a straight man. I think we all have certain things that we fantasise about that may not inherently fit with our sexuality… Just go with it.
It’s okay to be attracted to both. I hope you realize that you’re not required to equate finding something a turn on with what you want in a relationship. Haven’t you ever known someone that was extremely good looking but is also a terrible human?
Closet 🌈.
Do you see your sexual directives as issues ?
Well, I mean girls are way nicer to look at lol