M 19 here, got on Hinge a couple weeks ago and this girl wants to meet Saturday night to link. I think I’m a decently looking tall guy, I’ve had opportunities to have sex before but I just never did, and I can’t lie I’m rlly nervous about it even though I know it’s meant to be fun. I’ve done other stuff but just not full sex. I just don’t want it to be awkward at all
Should I tell her im a virgin? Or should I just roll with it and see how I do on the night? Idk what to do 🙏
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You can tell her or not, but just don’t lie.
Yes.
you dont have to share any information.
Tell her but not right away…see how things go first, then if going well you tell
Tell the person that it’s your first time. There is nothing wrong with this, and some partners are very happy that you are having your first time with them!
This helps the other person to make your first time special, and cues then into any hiccups that might occur, such as difficulty “rising to the occasion” (which sometimes happens to guys their first time).
Just take things slowly, ask your partner what pleases them, and share what pleases you. Let your partner know that you are enjoying yourself, and that you are happy that your first time is with them.
And be sure to wear a condom! You should use a rubber even if your partner is on birth control, because even the very best methods can fail, and only condoms protect you against an STD.
Have fun, and I hope your first sexual experience is enjoyable and memorable for you both!
You’re 19, there’s a good chance that you have little to no experience… My advice, just roll with it… Women have disappointing sex men twice your age or older.
Women will probably say yes give her the information. Men will probably say no, just go with the flow. People give advice by imagining themselves in the situation. Women want to know that you are a virgin, some won’t care, some will be turned off. But regardless they want the info to help them make their judgements and scope you out. Men would not want to admit they are a virgin, because the high risk vs low reward.
Yes
Definitely don’t lie if asked, but whether you volunteer that information is up to your personal preference. Just to be clear – 19 is a normal age to still be a virgin, it won’t freak her out like it might if you’re 30. Some sexual information definitely does need to be proactively disclosed like STDs, but being a virgin is purely up to you and your comfort.
Roll with it. Practice putting on a condom.
You can of course, but you don’t need to mention it first, if she ask you okey but don’t worry about that just give her all you got 🙂
I damn wish I still was…
No
You don’t need to announce it ahead of time unless you want to
I agree when it comes down to the timing of it, let her know but other wise it not really prevalent to the events you two will be doing. I might be a little nieve about this but that how I would feel about it. I stayed a virgin till after my marriage at 21.
You are free to be as open as you like about your relationship to sex. You should know, tho, that the concept of virginity is made up. Having sex is a deeply intimate thing which, like any form of deep intimacy, can cause changes in your life. It does not, however, change anything innate about you.
The original concept of a virgin was a woman who was religiously commited to not being married, something priestesses of Vesta did. The idea that having sex for the first time fundamentally alters the nature of who you are as a person is a sexist misogynist thing used to trick women into slut shaming themselves and each other. Over time that got expanded by a very popular supeprstitious cult to include men.
Honestly, my suggestion is to keep doing the other stuff and put off sex for a while, at least until you’re done with school or have otherwise started your career. Otherwise, sure tell her. See if she’ll give you any pointers.
As someone who was little older then you when I first had sex.
I’d wait till in person and till it’s almost time for the deed.
Also, make sure you won’t regret the person you do have your first with. I’ll be honest, it won’t be the best sex you ever had but you’ll always remember it.
Don’t worry about it I guess maybe I’m old-fashioned but I would wait until you find somebody that you love not a one night stand or at least care for the person I was 22 before I lost my card and my ex brother-in-law I think was either 35 or 36 but his reasons was unreligious grounds
And mine was because I had found the right person yet
I think I’ve ended up telling at some point after my 1st time. I did not really think about the whole “Should I or when to tell”, I’ve just mentioned after. If she would have asked I would have said earlier, but I don’t see why you should volunteer this info. Just don’t worry about it, such things sort themselves out.
I’d say depends on if you think you can perform well enough. I’ve hooked up with girls and had very little experience and was open about it and they seemed cool w it, no big deal. But if you think you can do it just fine it’s not necessary. If you think you’re gonna need a little leeway might as well be open about it.