I (30f) have around 2k games in my gaming library on steam, 3.5 if counting steam family sharing.
Now for those who don’t use it – steam family sharing allows to create a family up to 6 people including yourself and share games with them. If someone left or got kicked out they can not join another family for a year and the slot they had can not be fulfilled for a year (i can be wrong about the last bit tho). The slots in the family have been taken by me, my partner who i live with, 2 of my best friends and 2 of family members who can not afford games as where they live most games are either not sold or extremely expensive.
My in laws have recently asked if I can give my nephew in law (11m) access to the game library so he can play as they can’t afford the games for him. I said no. First i don’t have space in the family and not kicking anyone out, second I don’t know him, third my partner doesn’t really know him and they don’t get along, so why would I be giving someone like that access? Moreover I am not spending hours filtering out the games the nephew can and cant play.
I have told the in laws that. While my MIL is on my side, FIL caused a scene and called me an asshole for not helping (nephew is on FIL side and not really related to my partner if we go to the specifics). Both FIL and nephew are being super dramatic about it on social media with comments calling me an asshole too for refusing to help a child.
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I (30f) have around 2k games in my gaming library on steam, 3.5 if counting steam family sharing.
Now for those who don’t use it – steam family sharing allows to create a family up to 6 people including yourself and share games with them. If someone left or got kicked out they can not join another family for a year and the slot they had can not be fulfilled for a year (i can be wrong about the last bit tho). The slots in the family have been taken by me, my partner who i live with, 2 of my best friends and 2 of family members who can not afford games as where they live most games are either not sold or extremely expensive.
My in laws have recently asked if I can give my nephew in law (11m) access to the game library so he can play as they can’t afford the games for him. I said no. First i don’t have space in the family and not kicking anyone out, second I don’t know him, third my partner doesn’t really know him and they don’t get along, so why would I be giving someone like that access? Moreover I am not spending hours filtering out the games the nephew can and cant play.
I have told the in laws that. While my MIL is on my side, FIL caused a scene and called me an asshole for not helping (nephew is on FIL side and not really related to my partner if we go to the specifics). Both FIL and nephew are being super dramatic about it on social media with comments calling me an asshole too for refusing to help a child.
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You are not the asshole here. It is your account and you already have your slots filled with people you know and trust. Steam family sharing has limits for a reason and it is not unreasonable to keep access within your circle. Family drama over something like this is overblown and you do not owe anyone access to your personal library
NTA
You’re already at the limit for sharing, and that should be enough of a reason on its own. Coupled with the infeasible admin and that you don’t really know the kid is plenty.
Also, the minimum age for a Steam account is officially 13…
If you have some spare cash and want to keep them on-side, maybe offer to buy a couple of cheap games for them? But you’re under no obligation.
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So let them be dramatic. You said No. NTA.
NTA…You don’t have to share with anyone, especially a complete stranger. Relatives who feel differently are free to share their own resources.
NTA. Calling someone an asshole for not doing you a favor is a strange way to go about changing their mind.
NTA, you could’ve responded better. “I’m sorry, no, the plan is full and everyone pays for it.” Or let your partner handle it.
LOL, not your child, not your problem to give some random kid your games. They can give him games or buy Steam. I love how others feel they can spend your money/resources. Nope. You’re NTA.
They just sound pathetic going online trying to garner support on something that isn’t a group debate lol who cares what anyone else thinks anyways, if those people feel like villifying you I’d strongly suggest they provide this boy with his precious video games. I’ll bet they won’t.
It’s illegal for an 11-year-old to have an account on most social media platforms, report him for being underage and move on with your life.
A simple “I have no slots available” is enough. NTA
Personally I only allow immediate family (ie. my children) on any type of family share plan. That way I avoid extended family trying to jump on. I’ve given the answer “No” to nephews using that reason.
NTA
If you’re at the limit you’re at the limit.
The other reasons (and the way you state them) make you sound a bit like an a-hole, but that one is logical and perfectly reasonable.
NTA
The FIL & nephew’s entitlement issues make then the AHs here…
Ask them who of you, your partner, your 2 (blood I assume) family members & 2 good friends should be expected to give up their slot & why…
People are the worst – sure, ask for stuff like this but then be gracious if the answer is “No”…
You know that kid’ll cause havoc & if they get access to something you haven’t blocked & the FIL doesn’t lik it you’ll get grief for that.
Not worth it.
NTA
Does your FiL not understand numbers?
Editing to add: Why in these stories do the disgruntled family member never offer to help the person they are championing?
NTA but why are you responding to this directly? You could see their nonsense a mile away and should have had your husband deal with this. Have some tact in your marriage lol
NTA. Tell the truth on social media since he wants to be petty and ask ppl this question: who’s the real ahole: the person demanding you share what’s yours by literally kicking out a friend/ family member or the person who tried to explain the situation and actually doesn’t even know this kid? Nuff said… sorry but your FIL is a HUGE ahole
NTA