so hey, i’m (f25, bi) living with two straight guys, both just a little older than me. we’ve only been roommates for about 6 months so we’re not like, super close yet.
there’s a big heatwave coming next week, and the last one was awful. we’re on the top floor, so the apartment turns into an oven. last time it happened, both of them just took their shirts off without even asking which was totally fine by me. i didn’t though, and i didn’t even ask if it’d be okay, mostly because i wasn’t sure how they’d take it or if it might get weird.
before moving here i had my own place and i’d basically live half-naked all summer without thinking about it. now i’m kinda dying from the heat and it’s frustrating not being able to do the same. but i’m worried it would instantly be sexualized or make things awkward, and i really don’t want to give the wrong idea i’m not trying to flirt or anything.
so idk… should i ask them first? just do it because there shouldn’t be a difference anyway? or is it better to just keep my shirt on to avoid any weird vibes?
what would you do?
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I think asking is a better option, before they think that you wanna do something else
I’m gonna be honest…. even though most males will be like 👀 if you asked them for this…. it’ll make it super awkward overall in the longrun…
Its going to be awkward.. and cause drama.
If one of the guys is in a relationship and their partner finds out… Drama…
If one of the guys have a friend over… Or the friends find you you walk around…
This is why I would never roommate with the opposite sex.
I’m going to act like this is a genuine question, yes it’s better to keep your shirt on to avoid weird vibes.
As a guy. Go ahead. Get ready to set up boundaries tho.
Why not just use the AC?
I’d definitely have a quick conversation first. Even if you think it shouldn’t be a big deal, you’re living with two guys you don’t know super well yet, and everyone’s comfort level is different.
You posted the same exact text few days ago with a different account….
Would need a pic before determining
I guess it depends how attractive you are. You’re right there shouldn’t be a difference, but I think it’s weird for men to walk around topless around their roommates too
Always be comfortable in you home. And allow your roommates to be comfortable as well. Being topless is natural, they just getting a free show.
You mean full on tita hanging out? That’s a little ridiculous. Sports bras and shorts are a lot more reasonable
Do you plan on having sex with them also?
Most likely not a good idea from your perspective. The female body is very interesting to the opposite sex.
There’s no way 2 straight guys in their 20s aren’t going to be aroused by tits.
At best they are gentlemen and they can handle their feeling gracefully.
But there’s a lot of other ways it could go.
Especially since you guys don’t know each other very well, I’d be worried about them taking it as a signal