So as the title states… I’ve been with my gf 26F for 4 years, I’m 35M She grew up in PA and has hunted and killed things and owns guns (me too). We get along 10/10 relationship, like soulmates. But to know she could easily just run over these geese on purpose and squish their bodies and heads with her car in front of their parent geese and siblings might be a deal breaker for me. The parent geese and siblings are around the bodies squawking. I feel terrible. She didn’t do it to be mean, we have a problem with geese taking over our neighborhood and lake and there’s like hundreds and they poop everywhere out of control. But to know she could do this so easily with no remorse, I just don’t know if I can forgive her for it. She grew up hunting and killing animals so for her it’s like pulling a leaf off a tree, she didn’t even flinch. She went out with trash bags and picked up the bodies. She knows I’m upset and I told her to not talk to me. Can you please give advice on how you would handle this situation if you were me?
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OMFG
An owner of a nearby restaurant did this right in front of customers, it hurt his business badly.
That is not humane. I could not stay with this person.
If I were you, I would break up with an anti-social personality animal cruelty perpetrator. I would also file a criminal report on the obvious animal cruelty she perpetrated, as yes, it is illegal to run geese down – certainly out of season.
Why is this hard for you to decide about? Learn discernment.
I’m 35 and play on swings and have my mom make me breakfast
Hunting for sport is pretty cruel as is. But people love to hunt, so its whatever.
But running over a flock of geese for the fun of it… Sounds monstrous. A soulless action.
This would throw me off as well, to the point I would probably question what actually goes on in her mind and likely end the relationship in addition.
>Can you please give advice on how you would handle this situation if you were me?
We aren’t you. Your standards, values, priorities, feelings, and goals aren’t the same as ours.
But if I were in your position, I’d stop distancing myself from her, and sit down and calmly and honestly share how and why her actions conflict with my personal sense of what’s right and wrong.
I’d also recommend that you take time and space to consider: is there anything that could be said or done – by her, you, or both of you – that could convince you that you could return to this relationship with confidence that you two have core values and beliefs that are compatible with each other?
Ok so first off, if these are Canadian geese we’re talking about, it may or may not be a felony, if you’re in the US. I’m pretty sure they’re federally protected. So legally, your GF is possibly (probably) screwed if anyone finds out.
Secondly even, if these are nuisance animals, there are ways to take care of them, that aren’t running them over with your vehicle and causing unnecessary pain and suffering to the animals. Even when culling animals is legally sanctioned, it’s necessary to do it as humanely as possible. Again, running them over with your vehicle is NOT the way to do that. I’m pretty sure if fish and game, or whatever your local wildlife enforcement is found out about this, they would be very unhappy. And your GF would likely be facing charges.
And lastly, there is a MASSIVE difference between “hunting” animals and intentionally causing unnecessary pain and suffering. Most hunters I know make it a point to take animals in the most humane manner possible. With precision and care. What you’re describing here isn’t “hunting”. What you’re describing here is essentially torture and murder.
I would break up. This is nothing like hunting. It is intentional animal cruelty.