The past 5-7 years have been a whirlwind for me—healing trauma and dealing with the effects of it all, especially on my relationships. I have exhausted my partner and friends through the end of my 20s. I’m 33 now and I’m finally feeling myself mature and let go of a lot of toxic patterns, but I fear that I may have pushed a lot of people away during this process and I feel like my life is sort of starting over? Maybe it’s time to move away, make new friends and “start fresh” but is that ridiculous for someone that’s 33? Have i messed up and it’s too late? I wonder if anyone else has been through a similar situation and how was it for you? thank you for any support!
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I don’t think it’s ever to late to start over. Life is just a series of beginnings and endings and all the messy bits in between.
Well im guy in quite similar situation, 29 and quite lost. Hope to see some positive answers here, cause I got none..
There’s always time to start over! You got this!
I am in a similar situation at 41. Repressed childhood trauma took decades of my life until I started therapy and dealt with it. Now I’m about to graduate college, leave my not so great boyfriend, and move states. It feels like I’m growing up finally lol. I like to think of it as a new chapter or season. This is me and who I was always supposed to be; albeit a little later than others.
I didn’t move but emotionally moved away from my family. I am still with my husband but was angry about a lot of things from our past. I have done extensive work and made mistakes but I am finally seeing a better future. Some people saw the traumatized version of me- physical pain and emotional pain make for some fun times. As embarrassed as I am that people I didn’t trust saw that side of me, I have practiced deep compassion for myself. I think if they judge me, that’s on them as I know how badly I was struggling. It was part of my healing and the people who are still here never judged me to begin with. I still live in the same city but I am so far removed from toxic dynamic, including those in my immediate family, that I feel like a different person. I was reading my journal the other day and I have grown so much from my people pleasing and codependent tendencies.