As title said, my boyfriend wanted me to say I should wait for him. At the same time, he has an ex fiancée, and he still has her photo on his social media post. (I don’t really mind this, but he kept saying he tried his best to make me feel I’m the only one, if that’s the case, why didn’t he delete the post? He’s a private person on social media, so the fact he didn’t delete the post made me feel his ex fiancée is gonna be there on his mind forever, he even said she’s the one who got away)
A little context: he knew that the very first time we met, and now is after 10 months, I learned this in May. I knew he cared, but I thought he accepted me otherwise why continued talking. And he had his fun time early 20s
I really don’t think it’s fair, but I want to ask you guys opinion about it. He was pretty mad I didn’t say what he wanted to hear, and brought up the topic of men can have past why can’t women have. He felt like I didn’t care for him because I neglected his need of reassurance at the time and it took me a couple of times to say similar answer like he wanted it, but it was not enough. He thinks I don’t mean it.
I don’t know if I should bring up this topic again to him.
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Expecting someone to “wait” for a person they haven’t yet met (and in this case wouldn’t until well into adulthood) is just bizarre. That there are a lot of 30+ year-old virgin women out there is just incorrect. So he’s got some strange double standards. This man is a head case and any future you try to craft with him isn’t going to be a good one.
Quite the contrary, he doesn’t care about you because his quest for his god-given virgin created especially for him is failing and his taking that anger out on you, a woman who has done nothing wrong.
>As title said, my boyfriend wanted me to say I should wait for him.
If he loves you, it’s because of who you are. And here’s the thing: your past makes you who you are. He wouldn’t want to change it because, if he could, he’d risk turning you into someone else, someone he doesn’t love. So, either he loves you, “warts” and all (and those are sarcasm quotes, because your past is not a bad thing), or… He doesn’t.
Clearly, he doesn’t.
So don’t settle.
A man like this would swiftly become one of the past men. What a weirdo.
Wait, he wants you to say “I’m sorry I wasnt a virgin when we met, I wish I could have been alone for past decade and only have had eyes for you”??
Tell him ex bf number 16 would never have bothered and number 27 was way bigger.
That would be a red flag. Is he a Republican or religious or otherwise fuxcd in the head ?
He is a person of low intelligence to be thinking about this. DUMP HIM.
What you have done in your past is your past. He has no room to criticize since she has an ex fiancé. This is something you need to discuss before you do anything further, it’s easier to walk away now than it is later on.
Isn’t it? When someone wants you to act like they’re the only one ever but can’t even delete a photo of their ex from social media… it’s like they’re stuck in a loop. Never dealt with? Or just pretending it doesn’t matter? How do you even build trust when they’re clinging to old stuff like that?
Honestly, you don’t mean it. He’s being a hypocrite in a manner that is literally none of his business.
Tell him that he should have waited for YOU and his social media photos are proof he didn’t.
But more than that, dump him.
Please tell me the posted ages aren’t correct?
How can one wait for something that doesn’t exist? Tell him to grow tf up and man up as well lol
Just leave him. He is an idiot.
He’s projecting. He still has feelings for his ex, and he assumes you have feelings for yours.