Im losing my fucking mind.
For context later when im overwhelmed i have two reactions. I either cry uncontrollably or i laugh like a maniac. Anyway on to post.
I took a little break from my phone (and got banned temporarily) so that’s why I haven’t updated.
I had a mental breakdown during the night and cut my hair. Luckily my roommate Kelly (19f) is training to be a barber to she fixed ir gave me a really cute bob. She also came with me to the party.
I wanted to get answers as I find it strange Sarah went for Simon after everything i went through.
I walked into the yard where the party was and my mom was like “oh Gabi you cut your hair! It looks so nice! I wasn’t sure if you were gonna come!” Sarah was right next to her so i said “of course i don’t abandon family” and looked her in the eye. I walked away w Kelly to other family so I could talk to them. Eventually Kelly was distracted talking to people about hair and I saw Sarah go to the bathroom so I followed her.
I locked the door behind me and started asking her questions. She tried apologising but i told her I don’t wanna hear shit apologies I want the truth. And she told me that she had been jealous of all the attention she got from friends family and everyone in my life. She thought that if she went through what i did then she’d get attention. So she went after Simon. He then became a piece of shit. He secluded her and wouldn’t let her have friends in contact with most people. He died. She got out.
I just started laughing like a fucking insane bitch. I walked out the bathroom and my dad heard everything. He said I was horrible for my reaction and that I should have basic respect and empathy for Sarah after everything shes been through with that asshole. I said “my empathy died with Simon.” and barged passed him. Kelly found me walking across the hard laughing as though I should be in a psych ward and hell maybe I do. Maybe im a terrible person. Maybe I’ve insane. Maybe im just tired. Who knows.
She took me back to our apartment where she let me cry into her shoulder for a while. Like a loooong while. Then she put on my favourite horror movie (Scream 2) and we just watched that and ate ice cream. I really love her. I really do.
So that’s the update.
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Your dad is an idiot. Did he notbhear how yourvsiste purposefully put herself in that position? I’m sorry, OP, but I think it’s time to go low to no contact with your family. They all sound horrible, and they’re not good for your mental health.
NTA.
So she did all of that just so she could get attention? There are a lot easier ways to do that, like dying your hair a wild color or getting a tattoo, and it doesn’t hurt everyone around them.
I genuinely hope you go no contact with your entire family and block them all. At the very least, your sister and parents will know exactly how it feels, because I’m not fully buying that she went no contact with your parents at this point. I think the only person who got true no contact was you. Because your sister knew that you would be pissed if you knew the truth.
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Laughing might’ve just been your brain’s way of short-circuiting from how absurd and twisted it all was.
This is horrible. I am so sorry. I am glad you have some IRL support. You’re processing a lot right now.
NTA did your dad NOT hear everything your sister said?!? Who in their right mind would want to date a person to ‘experience’ abuse?!?!!!!! Whoever does that is sick in the head. What really gets me is that your dad brushing it off like that almost makes it sound like he thinks it is YOUR fault.
And keep that friend, ones like those are hard to come by.
Your sister is fried…
I am sorry you are going through allll of this b s!!!!!!!!!! Keep laughing it off.. you are not insane at all. You have trauma, and your sister is a jealous pile of shit. Like wtf!!!!
Fuck them all to hell. The most messed up pile of garbage I’ve ever heard. I’m so deeply sorry. I had an older abuser when I was a teen and let me tell you I would have lost my mind if my sister did that and parents forgave and acted like yours have.
Please take care of yourself. One day at a time. And let them disappear or grovel. YOU ARE THE ONE THAT THEY ALL FUCKED OVER. The lies, lack of explanation, blocking and then they play happy families?!?!?!
YTA for this ongoing total load of crap
You need mental help
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They traded one daughter for another daughter.
This is unfortunately some cringe made up story from the mind of an immature teenager. Like yikes, legit something you’d find in some dumb drama-laced fanfiction. Anything for Internet sympathy and likes I guess.
Updateme
NTA. Really, can’t grasp how your father thinks that is a valid excuse and should be ok or forgiven. Honestly, Sarah is messed up. Jealousy? Of all reasons — that’s what she is going for?
Truly, she is not one of the smartest. But hey, she got attention, right?
Anyway, good for you to block them all. Your parents finally have their precious Sarah back — and lost you in the process.
And you’ll heal and push through this. It’s not easy. But at least you have good friends that stay by your side and don’t betray you like that.
Updateme, just in case.
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