A dating expert said you need to turn women on emotionally for them to be interested. How did you do it?
A dating expert said you need to turn women on emotionally for them to be interested. How did you do it?
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A dating expert said you need to turn women on emotionally for them to be interested. How did you do it?
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Interested in what – long term or short term? If its short term, that expert is a liar.
First, you have to be able to see a woman as a human. Not just some switch you can flip and then they fuck you.
Be your best self, have the balls to put yourself out there, and don’t fuck up opportunities.
Social skills, charisma, genuine and earned confidence.
Stop listening to ‘experts’
By having abs, pecs, and biceps. Fitness will do more for you than any advice anyone will ever give for dating success.
Step 1: Put them in danger.
Step 2: Rescue them from danger
Step 3: ???
Step 4: There is no step 4. If you actually thought this would work you are a moron.
Real advice: Be genuine, but be interesting. Be the kind of guy who you would want to know. The whole “be yourself” thing is actually great advice, it just doesn’t mean what most people think it means. It means be genuine. Make that awesome you the authentic you. If you are faking it too hard, she will usually feel like something is off.
Be confident, do interesting things, listen to and remember the things she says.
Have a personality. Hold a conversation. Make a connection. Don’t be afraid to walk away.
The main takeaway I had from dating around before my marriage is that every single woman had their own unique set of wants and needs and every single woman thought their specific set of wants and needs was universal to all women.
Flirt, have a few good stories (interesting, funny, dangerous, etc), be a safe guy, and remember you can disagree with what they say sometimes.
“men get turned on by what they see, women get turned on by what they hear”
So basically learn to sing like Barry White and tell her she is “the first, the last, your everything and the answer to all your dreams” and she’ll hear you.
If you have to ask.. 🤷♀️
You wanna know how? Stop listening to ‘experts’ ffs.
By being a violent asshole covered in tattoos and treating them like trash! I don’t know why it works but it works!
If you need to convince someone to be into you you have lost
Be charming and make her feel safe at the same time. Having a sense of humor helps.
Laugh maniacally and plot world domination! That always gets my attention. I may be a bit odd, though…
My friend – Perhaps r/seduction is a better place to ask.
The title “dating expert” has always been hilarious to me. Expert in dating whom, exactly? Other people who like to date around?
Go into their settings
Mostly, I don’t.
Your “dating expert” doesn’t know shit, find a new one.
You need to stop thinking in sexual terms, for starters. If you’re thinking about turning them on, regardless of the context, you’ll fail every time.
If you want women to be interested in you, you have to a) be interesting by having a meaningful life focused on something other than women and b) be interested in them as a person, not just as a sex doll.
Women are oblique thinkers. You need to approach them obliquely. Stop aiming for the target and you’ll get there faster.
Seriously, stop following “dating coaches” online.
Something about making them feel safe or whatever
Very true. Make them laugh, tease them a little, listen to their venting and ranting, (without offering advice) and they turn into mush.
That list bit is important. Women feel detached if they feel unheard and they get frustrated if you think they need a problem solver.
For women, or at least for my wife, emotional connection = raging lady boner.
Show them a fancy stainless steel fishing lure outside on a bright sunshiny day. The reflected, flickering, sparkling light can be mesmerizing; large mouth bass can’t resist. You may get lucky.
Lol, anyone claiming to be a dating expert is a fraud trying to sell a course and scam people out of money. A relationship counselor would give better advice since they at the very least are educated in interpersonal relationships.
What qualifies someone to be a “dating expert”?
Honestly, just don’t be a douchebag that talks about themselves, has social maturity, treats others well, is polite, and can laugh at themselves. I know it sounds like a lot, especially for a lot of the newer generation, but this is what they mean.
Be clear that you’re interested in her. That’s a great way to move the dial.
Been funny. Been kind and genuine. Always been real and true and a good man.
Alright, listen to this autist my lads, for I have lain with women under numerous circumstances.
You know when you really like someone (romantically, sexually) but you want to fight them (verbally, physically) too? That’s what you need to act upon. Carpe dictum, seize that words!
In all seriousness, when you find someone you want to fuck and fight, you need to swallow the discomfort in your own throat and throw down like you would with your bros(skip the personal attacks, challenge her). Afterwards, if she sticks around, then you make meaningful advances. Direct is fine, direct is sexy, direct is respectful.
“Do you want to come to my place tonight?” Works wonders once she’s interested. Asking for consent is sexy.
keep arguing
doubt whatever she says
keep talking about cryptocurrencies
>!/s!<
Make them laugh.
Treat them like a person. Someone you have a genuine interest in.
It really is that simple.
“Turn women on emotionally for them to be interested”
Observe the way that women react to, and talk about, specific traits / behaviors of physically attractive men
Now observe the way that women react to, and talk about, the exact same specific traits / behaviors of physically unattractive (or just average) men.
That is your answer. In personal life I’ve spent years in a couple different social / friends groups with women. I’m quick with jokes and have gotten good at making people laugh. Through all of that, I’ve never seen their eyes light up and their attention hyper-focus after jokes that put them into a laughing fit, in the same way it does when a tall guy walks into the room and just exists next to them.
Looks are the resume / 90% of the interview, your personality and actions are the job. The interest and emotional turning-on happens in step 1. It’s not impossible to get to step 2 on personality / actions alone, but it is rare and fairly difficult. Meanwhile if you’re physically attractive enough, talking about something mundane like shoveling snow will be enough to turn a woman on emotionally.
Make it clear you are interested in her, be 100% yourself do not hide your personality, have fun joking with her, and be kind because you want to be and not because you want to get anything from her. Keep doing that and she’ll be claiming your space as hers in no time. That’ll you’ll have to deal with yourself😂
So I’m 40 and within the last couple of years something just clicked and now I have no problem meeting women and dating.
you’ll be surprised at the number of dudes out there that are weirdos and creeps. If you can just have a normal conversation as a guy without coming across weird and creepy – just talk to her as a normal person – you’re already ahead of the curve.
women are way more into guys who can show that they are genuinely interested in what they say (like showing interests and learning about them). Treat it like learning about a new friend.
if you have a ton of cool life experiences that you can bond over, that’s an added bonus. Like oh you like Italy, I once stayed with friends at an Airbnb in puglia and took cooking classes. Just go out and do cool stuff in your own – visit restaurants, learn how to dance if that’s what you really want to learn – and the confidence that comes from that will become self evident. Just get confident and comfortable in your own skin and that confidence will project.
Make her laugh
Sounds dumb but just act like yourself. Would you act overly eager/agreeable/funny if you were talking to a guy?
Talk to her like a human being, show some interest, be direct with your intentions and wait for reciprocation. It does help to have a good sense of humor though.
I like to hit ’em with that silent eye fuck. Just staring ’em down, give ’em a constant stream of reminders of what I’m constantly thinking about. Hit ’em with the juice sometimes. Lay it on thick. But it can’t be all about that. It’s got to be subtly mixed in with regular, stress-free living. Develop the environment of comfort and respect, then start dripping juice. You’ll eventually figure out how to fill her cup.
I take a vacuum cleaner with me on dates. Gets them everytime
get really good at listening and talking. Learn how to have honest conversations instead of texting.
Rules 1 and 2. It’s always rules 1 and 2.