She was in the shower and her phone was blowing up so I went to turn the sound and vibrating off and I saw the messages that were on her reddit account. I read all of the chats going back years. She’d been sexting random dudes here the entire time we were together. She got off on “cucking me” behind my back and that was a focal point of her chats.
When I confronted her on it she was mad that I went through her phone. Then she told me that I wasn’t enough for her. I broke up with her. I had bought an engagement ring and was planning on proposing on our anniversary next month. Honestly, I’m crushed. I’m more angry and hurt than I’ve been in my entire life. She’s tried to apologize to me and asked for some things she left in my apartment. I donated it all to the Salvation army this morning and I’m probably just going to get shitfaced all weekend.
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Be sure to tell her family and friends because I’m sure she’s making you out to be the villain. I hope you rub the proposal in her face too.
She needs to feel the full extent of how much she hurt you.
I’m sorry. This is all on her though, not you. People like that usually have issues and are too immature to deal with them in a healthy way.
Just be thankful for dodging this bullet.
Imagine discovering this after marriage or worse, after building a family?
I’m sorry OP. Better to find out how she really is now than when seated across from her at a divorce mediation, where you’re about to lose half your shit.
consider it a blessing. better now than when you put a ring on it
I am sorry to hear that. At least you avoided a lifetime of lies and hurt.
Acc made 40 mins ago 🙄
Don’t waste your weekend.
Her fantasies aren’t your fault.
She sounds like an emotionally immature person with unresolved issues.
A drunk weekend is just going to make you feel sick and sad on Monday. Not the right mindset for when she starts apologizing again.
Stay strong. You’re going to be fine.
You dodged a bullet if she was treating your relationship like a game. She didn’t humiliate you, she humiliated herself by losing a good relationship over her kink. Still, sorry you had to go through that.
Horrible. What’s her Reddit so I can report and block her.
I’m saddened for you. I hope you can come back from this and find love again man. Keep your chin up.
Honestly id show the proof and post it in ur story and tag her
Well it’s not cucking if it was behind your back, she was just cunting
Hope you leave her and have a good weekend
I’m so sorry, man. What she did wasn’t just cheating – it was calculated humiliation for years. Nobody deserves that kind of betrayal, especially when you were planning a future with her.
The ring/proposal part hit me hard. That moment when you realize everything you thought you knew was completely different from reality… it’s genuinely traumatic.
Getting shitfaced this weekend is understandable, but make sure you’ve got someone checking in on you. The next few weeks are going to be rough – your brain will try to rationalize, make excuses for her, even blame yourself. Don’t fall for it.
I’m not usually one for the “tell everyone” approach, but in this case, a simple factual explanation to mutual friends might be necessary since she’ll likely spin this. Not as revenge, but as protection for yourself.
When you’re ready, therapy helps. Betrayal trauma is real. In the meantime, let yourself feel everything – the anger, the hurt, all of it. You dodged a bullet, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less right now.
Good for you. Don’t put up with that bullshit. If you were to relent one inch she would eventually take a thousand miles.
Good for you bro, don’t take no shit….what’s her Reddit handle? I just wanna know so I can block her. All kidding aside, good for you brotha.
It’s a good thing you found out when you did brother. She wouldn’t have stopped, and it would’ve only been harder.
My advice? A positive outlet. It’s so easy to turn to booze and party and fun things but then when you’re alone it hits harder and you’ll only mask that with more drinking and partying. Not saying don’t have fun but find a healthy outlet.
Get into the gym. Work harder at building your life.
Sounds fun
Send her to the streets
I’m honestly always worried about this happening. My current relationship has had some rough patches, and while I don’t think she’d do this, and i trust her not to, i still worry about this exact scenario. in retrospect, was there any signs it was happening prior to her phone blowing up?