So a few weeks ago, a guy in my friend group basically told me that “ he doesn’t want to date black women anymore bc we’re crazy and now he prefers blondes”. I told him that that comment was offensive and just rude. Him and I dated in the past and I told him like wow now I feel like an experiment. Today he sends me a Tik Tok where actress Hailee steinfeld talks about he she’s basically an eighth black and he tells me “ See I told you that dating me wasn’t an experiment”….I got annoyed and at the end of the convo I told him I won’t educate him. He’s apart of my friend group (he is NOT a friend anymore to me at all and after that interaction I kept my distance) and there’s only two weeks of classes left on campus. I’m wondering if I should tell them I don’t want to be around him even if group settings or just keep my peace bc there’s only two weeks left of the school year. Like dude I don’t need your acceptance or validation. Stop talking to me about this !
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Don’t minimize yourself or make excuses for him. Say what you need to say. You’ll know who your friends are at a minimum. I’m sorry you’ve had to experience this.
He’s a bitter loser seeking your attention and jealousy. Don’t give it to him. Pretend you don’t care even if it annoys you.
I think this is the perfect time to say what’s on your mind. There are only two weeks til break, you’d likely be able to avoid being around him after addressing things and then won’t have to see him for the summer. I think if you let this go you might regret it and you shouldn’t have to deal with his racism any longer. And If your real friends don’t know he’s been doing this to you then they should know about it.
The next time he tells you that he doesn’t want to date black girls just say “who gives a shit”? He wants a reaction from you and you’re giving it to him. You’re right, he’s negging you.
In future when a man says that to you, (because they will), say ‘thank you.’
Don’t argue with him.
Ask him to promise to leave bw alone.
He’s 💯 garbage and not worth one drop of your sweat
Yeah, this guy is just begging for attention. Don’t entertain him.
“Stop trying to fuck me Jason, the reason we split is because I find your face and your personality equally rancid. Go use the weird advice from that pick-up artist course you paid 300 bucks for on someone else because I no longer engage with whiny man children”
Just tell him, “Yeah and guys with small dicks aren’t my vibe, which is why I’m glad I’m not with you anymore. We both won!”
What a dick. Seems to me he is going out of his way to be a dick and say this because he does like you still and this is what he is doing to attempt to get you to prove him wrong or some shit.
It might be a good idea to mention to your friends why you don’t want to be around him and show them the messages, because otherwise he might start trying to make you out to the be bad one in your friend group. That is assuming these other friends are worth keeping friends at least.
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Don’t sacrifice your mental well being to “keep the peace”. It doesn’t work, it just makes them think they can continue getting away with it.
You have to show him that you’re not going to put up with it.
If I found out a person in my friend group was saying shit like that, they would be OUT. Along with any friend who backs them.
In MY friend group, one or two women always keep justifying why they will only date “stable” guys (meaning someone who can pay for dinner) and is a six-footer. I would normally just say, “Okay then,” then move on to the next topic.
You already know that you “don’t need his acceptance or validation.” So uhmmm… why are you still engaging him?